should i do this back to her what she did to me?

[shoebedo434]

would like to get some opinions on whether AIBU on this?
3 weeks ago, it was my son's 5th birthday, we had a party with entertainer, candy floss, disco etc. I invited 25 children (24 came) and everyone had a great time.
I invited a sort of friend that is more a friends friend but we meet up as a threesome for playdates with the kids. she was late (as she always is). I had asked for presents to be put under the table for later. anyway near the end of the party she came up to me and said she had got my son a birthday card but hadn't had a chance to get a present but would get one and drop it off at my house in the week.
anyway here we are 3 weeks later and no present. i'm not really bothered about the gift as he got lots of presents but it's more the principle of it. who turns up at a childs party with no gift? she did a similar thing at Christmas too. I haven't bothered mentioning to her.
anyway now we have received an invite to her sons party in May and part of me wants to do the same thing to her that she did to me. just take a card and say will drop the present off later but I feel that is abit mean but I begrudge buying a present. thoughts please?

Honestly; you "requested" that presents be placed under the table for later? Why would you not have let your child's friends hand him a gift if they'd brought one, and make no comment if they hadn't, like everybody else?
The idea of either chasing up a gift you think he's been gypped out of or getting your revenge by withholding one from the same child is really shocking, from a full grown adult.
Grow up.

Don't punish the child for the parents behaviour

Looking like she can afford it doesn't mean she doesn't have a budget to keep to.
That said a little something for your son would have been a nice gesture. It's the thought that counts!
If you accept the invitation I'd not go mad buying something to take but definitely choose something after all at this age the children aren't responsible for what their parents do.

That would be spiteful and petty. YABU.

part of me wants to do the same thing to her that she did to me.
She did nothing to YOU.
You want to get at her through her child - that's just horrid.

Is pathetic how you would even think to be so petty and vindictive. It hasn't occured to you that maybe she couldn't afford a present and was just trying to hide her unwarranted shame? Regardless of why she didn't bring a present doesn't give you a pass to be so hateful and immature.

Imagine she did the same thing to everyone all year and nobody brings a present to her child's party!

It could happen.