I have chronic health issues, gastroparesis and psoriatic arthritis. I'm on medication and am in a lot of pain, constantly tired and battling most days. I have good days and bad days. I have an 18month old. He was born 3 months early and had severe pre-eclampsia and HELLP syndrome. I had a lot of morning sickness with this pregnancy and it also made my gastroparesis worse. I had to quit my part time job as I was too ill to work.
My DH and I are planning to try for number 2 in September and I have concerns about my health and how I'll cope. I'll need to come off my arthritis medication 3 months before and I'm worried about the potential pain I'll be in and everything else that goes with arthritis. Also with my other health problems I'm worried I'll struggle with a toddler whilst being pregnant. I also will be very closely monitored after what happened with my first pregnancy.
My DH has recently started a new job with a less than average wage but we manage ok. He won't be able to take time off and there's really nobody else available who could help out on a regular basis if that's what I need. We can't afford nursery or childminder either.
I may be worrying over nothing and be completely fine but I can't help but worry. We have discussed not having another one but we would be devastated if we didn't, I know I would always regret it.
I applied for PIP and got refused and I can't put myself through that again. I get child tax credits and child benefit which is barely worth it to be honest but still helps.
Just wondering if anyone has any suggestions that we might be able to do to make things a bit easier? Xx