Which child has bigger bedroom?

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I'd always known girls to have the bigger bedroom, regardless of whether they were first or not.

Our first is a boy and he's currently in the smaller room and the other is used as a study / spare room / laundry room.

Wondering whether to move him in there and make the smaller room the study etc...but if our next is a girl I'd always assumed she'd have the bigger room and so maybe we shouldn't move him.

Husband said first born should have the bigger room and now I'm questioning why I've always had this idea girls should have the bigger room.

What do you guys do??

We only have 1 ds currently, but yes oldest should get the biggest room. I'm not sure why you think a girl should have or would need a bigger room?

I genuinely have no idea why I assumed this...hence me asking! I'd always just known girls to have the bigger room and so now it's come down to talking about it it's only now I've thought about it and how silly that is!

I don't think there'd be a big age gap so I don't think there'd be an obvious discrepancy in that respect in terms of gaming and plastic toys etc.

I'd never really thought about the logistics before - our nursery is tiny and perfect for what he needs now as he has a play area in the lounge, but the other room is significantly larger (hence it currently having three functions!) - and so I feel a bit bad there's not more equality for when we have another one so was interested in what other people do.

Just hadn't properly thought about it before - not sexist at all...just thoughtless!

Mum had the idea that boys should get biggest rooms (my younger brother always got the best of everything.) but be careful she had an obvious bias towards boys and is the same with grandxhildren.

Never head of "girls should get bigger rooms". It's really quite odd. Weren't a younger sister who still got the biggest room/spoilt? Just wondering during where the idea has come from...

At various times in our house, and in my parents' house when I was growing up, the biggest room has gone to

The siblings who were sharing vs the stumbling who had their own room.

The oldest, so they could study in peace.

The youngest, as they had more toys.

The boy, the girl, the middle child to fit the fossil collection into the built in cupboard, the lodger as there was space for a double bed, so they would pay more and we could all afford food/shoes/etc.

Biggest room for whoever has the greatest need. If sibs are similar age, they may well share for a good few years, whether or not they are the same sex or not.

Don't think there are any set rules outside of family tradition.

Oldest has biggest here.

Dd's room is double the size of ds's

Also OP smallest room can = coolest furniture (loft bed etc) which can even it up.

I don't get the girls thing. Never heard of it and strikes me as very odd.

I was the youngest and got the smallest room. I always thought that was a bit unfair, TBH.

I had friends at primary where the one who kept her room tidy and nice got the big room, and the messy one who always had crap strewn everywhere got the smaller room. I've always thought that was fair enough.

If the actual need for space was the same, and both children preferred the same room, I'd probably leave it to chance - drawing straws or something. I wouldn't want the children to feel like the parents gave them preferential treatment on the grounds of sex or age. However, you might just find that your first-born gets the nicest room, the next one gets the second nicest available etc and no one ever questions it.

Ds has the biggest bedroom and he is the youngest. Nothing to do with sex: it used to be my office and I got an office space at work at about the time when he was ready to move into his own room. Dd was happy to keep the room she had.

I’m 18 years and I’m girl. Well I think girls should have the bigger room because the go through thing like their period, growth serpent & they don’t need an bigger room for makeup and clothes that’s just crazy also girls get in bad moods while on their period And most girls periods are really painful like have cramps for the whole day, your stomach hurts when laying on your bed and It’s hard to get up of your bed when you have cramps. I can tell you shouldn’t say it’s sexiest because girls go through more painful than guys do we cry when we are on our period sometimes girls do crazy things to wish they didn’t have periods .

I’m 18 years and I’m girl. Well I think girls should have the bigger room because the go through thing like their period at the age 10-12 years old , growth serpent & they don’t need an bigger room for makeup and clothes that’s just crazy also girls get in bad moods while on their period And most girls periods are really painful like have cramps for the whole day, your stomach hurts when laying on your bed and It’s hard to get up of your bed when you have cramps. I can tell you shouldn’t say it’s sexiest because girls go through more painful than guys do we cry when we are on our period sometimes girls do crazy things to wish they didn’t have periods .

Never heard this about girls! I always assumed oldest one had the biggest room by default - they will be the one that had homework first, so will need some quiet space while younger one plays, likely to have sleepovers first etc.

Our DD has the big room, we are likely to have a bit of an issue later because we are now expecting twins and the other room doesn’t really have space for two, but we don’t want to ask DD to swap to a smaller room...

As a younger child, I didn’t think It was odd that my big sister always had the biggest room, because when I was old enough to question it, my parents explained calmly why they thought it made more sense that way round and asked me what I thought. They also pointed out some perks of being the younger sibling - I was allowed a later bedtime earlier than my sister was because she would be up and making noise anyway, I tended to be allowed to watch any TV that she was allowed because policing it would be too complicated etc. I guess it doesn’t matter what you decide, as long as you are able to explain it in a way that doesn’t make either child feel less valued.

We have oldest has biggest room. We may reassess as they get older.

It may work out best with the boy having the biggest room because the girl may want more privacy. In this case, some joint possessions such as toys or games consoles when they are older, would be in the boy's room.