finding life with 2 VERY difficult...3yr old and 7wk old...is this normal?

[xenabelly]

Help! Think i'm cracking up, we tried for baby no 2 for 2 years and i was desperate to have 2 children. Now i've got 2 children and they are driving me nuts! Am totally exhausted and feel like i'm the grumpiest, most miserable mum in the world.

My husband works from home so feel i have to take kids out all day so he can get some work done but find it totally exhausting trying to entertain 3yr old and by 6pm and sick to death of hearing 'mummy,mummy,mummy'.

I feel really bad that i'm finding my 7wk old so much easier to be with than my 3yr old who insists on coming to the toilet with me! I don't think it's a reaction to baby cos she was like this before I had him, think it's just normal 3yr old behaviour. Just feel really guilty that i feel so relieved when she goes to playschool or to grandparents for a few hours.

Having said all that I love both of them to pieces and after having a 'bad day' with her today she was sooo cute going to bed and blowing me kisses that i felt really guilty.

Is this all normal stuff? Is it just cos i'm getting used to having 2? Suppose the sleepless nights aren't helping.

Please reasurre me that it gets better!

Forgot to add....i too found ds much easier than my dd, toddlers are very demanding, but i didn't get the relief from my dd going to grandparents/playschool at all until dd started playschool in Feb.

It is weird as now that ds is 7 mth and driving me potty with wanting to do things he can't iykwim, doing his rolling across the room antics! and dd is the "easy" one! it changes all the time

i actually found it easier to have two than one. (20 months apart) one was just hard, but with two i suddenly embraced motherhood and it became easier.
and i am still at work.
couldn't have done it w/out a live in nanny and my dd's nursery though. my dd didnt regress at nursery she actually blossomed because it was her own thing that made her unique from her new baby sis.

only thing that sometimes bothers me is that i have to use the television a lot more now. does anyone else find that?

When your 3 year old is 4, and your tiny baby is nearly one, you may feel the other way round. Because your 4 year old will be chatty, funny, reliably toilet trained and will have developed an attention span - your 1 year old will be mobile, putting everything in their mouth, probably teething, and throwing food around.

It's very very normal. I have a 3 year age gap and I felt so guilty for wishing someone would just come and take the three year old away for a bit.

If you have to get out, find a playgroup or other 'safe space' so you don;t have to supervise older child so closely. You may also find people willing to hold younger child.