So if a child of about 7 used the word "F*ck" at school, how would you expect the school to deal with it?

[Enid]

out of interest

if it was the first time, i would expect them to say that it is not a word to be used in school and that the child is not to say it again or s/he will [insert punishment here]

a repeat offender should loose a break or something and teacher should have a word with parent.

tell him its not acceptable, but not go overboard. If he continued to use the word then get tougher, but not for one use.

I'd expect them to tell child off but not make a massive deal of it

but I am all for not imbuing these words with any importance and as a consequence ds knows plenty of swear words but doesn't use them at all because it doesn't get a reaction from me/us.

great minds MTPW

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agree
trouble is that so many students see it as a regular word , ie, parents use it a lot at home, and it gets to be a habit with them. one that is hard to break when there isn't any support coming from the home

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washing mouth out (I'm assuming with soap?) is verging on abusive I think, how vile.

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oh well, there you go

Some of the children I work with have different ideas to me as to what constitutes a swear word.

They happily spout some words and when I challenge them they say it is not a swear word!

That word however most definately is and would result in a warning.

Repetition would be construed as a deliberate flouting of the rules and would result in a letter home.

To which the parent may well reply " What a f*ing load of c**p."

I was in the car with dd1 yesterday and she said 'mummy rory said a really bad word in his sentence at school'

'oh what' says Enid

'fuck' says dd1

(at this part you must excuse my crap attempts not to piss myself whilst driving)

'OH' says Enid 'That IS a bad word - what did Miss Sponge say?'

'She asked him where he learned it - he said his Dad. He has to go and see Mrs Spiker (the head) and his parents have to go and see Miss Sponge. And he had to stay in over break'

'Fucking hell' says Enid

(ok I made that last bit up)

My 8 year old DS2 came home from school and said "Mum, is there a word spelt C U N T?" - some kid in his class had told it to him. I had such a complete fit on him (causing pushchair chaos just outside the school gates) that I think he's got the message it's not what one would consider acceptable - but I would cheerfully murder the boy responsible. I go in to "help" in that class once a week and I can barely be civil to the kid.

Only time I heard it used at school the teacher calmly said "what does that mean?" the child said the didn't know and mumbled and looked at the floor. Well don't let me catch you using words you don't understand again said the teacher and walked away.

I guess if the kid had known he would have said "well, do you think that is an appropriate thing to be talking about at school?"

I think Rory's treatment was a little OTT for a first offence.

Have heard both f and c at ds's previous preschool from one little angel. Ds has not brought them home though.

I think the more hysterical adults get around swearing, the more powerful the words become.
There should be consequences for children who repeatedly use inappropriate words at school, but I wouldn't hold any grudges against an 8 yo - it's not like he invented the word.

When DS2 was 5 the first thing he proudly wrote at school, in his rather genteel little kindergarten was 'fuck'(learned from his brother), on a picture he'd drawn of a woman being scared by a mouse. His teacher was a little shocked, as was I. We told him it was a lovely picture, but not a nice word. Secretly though DH and I laughed our heads off and have kept it for posterity.

lol at Enid
I think the school response way over the top tbh.
washing out the mouth good grief how barbaric

Where I work, telling a teacher to fuck off get a kid an automatic 3 day exclusion. But that is is secondary

there's a difference though between telling a teacher to fuck off (which is abusive and aggressive) and just saying fuck, isn't there? I would have thought

DS1 used the word f*cking in his written work at school when in Y2 and showed it to the teacher. They were doing a task where they had to make up nonsense words to replace ordinary words (I think they'd been looking at the Jabberwocky) and he made up a word to replace f-ing

Teacher could barely contain her laughter as she reported the incident to me, she'd got him to repeat it to make sure she'd not misread it. DS got Stern Talking To from me. Mainly because he'd spelt it incorrectly.

I know Rory

believe me he wasn't being aggressive

poor bastard

and his poor parents

Completely over the top! Lol Enid. Interestingly my DS 4 came out with same word today at football match with his Dad who quickly pointed out this was a grown up word (whilst being in agreement with him) They not really any idea what it means. Think over the top reaction gives it more meaning to them.