Why did you choose to have children?

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Sorry if this isn't the correct place to post this, I'm new. Also just so we're clear this isn't a trolling / horrible judgemental question. I'm genuinely curious as to why you had children?

I'm turning 25 in a few weeks and out of nowhere I'm getting a bit broody. I know I don't want a child/children at the moment but I do think I'll want one in the future.

I want to know what made you say "let's do this, it's time". How did you know you were truly ready / making the right decision?

DS1 - phone call from the GP at 6.30 at night to say congrats you're pregnant. Total shock as I was only 19 and on the pill. In hindsight I maybe wasn't as strict with contraception as I should have been. Was young & stupid. He made me better myself though and I couldn't live without him.

DS2 - late twenties & married. DH is not DS1 biological parent but is 'dad' in every way. Was deciding whether to do a masters degree and DH asked what I wanted. I replied I want a baby, and that was it. Unfortunately months of trying led to fertility problems & treatment but now have a very vocal sleep thief 6 month old

I've always wanted kids from being very young I grew up in a aggressive house hold and I always wanted to have kids to give them everything I never had and shower them with the love that i never got my kids make me who I am without them I wouldn't be anything ❤️

I always just assumed I'd have them one day. We got married when I was 26 and DH was almost 30. He didn't want to leave it much later to try and whilst I'd happily have waited a couple of years, we started ttc pretty much as soon as we were married. Got pregnant with DS1 straight away and he's nearly 6.

It took a year to get pregnant with DS2 and I was starting to panic that it wasn't ever going to happen, but I knew I desperately wanted DS1 to have a sibling. DS2 is now 5 months old.

I wasn't ever broody until we started trying for DS2, when I was 31.

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I chose not to have children but did a good 15 years of agonising over it. I often wondered if I could have been a 'dad' rather than a 'mum', whether I would have been more keen. I don't think so though - I wouldn't have wanted to be that sort of hands off, half involved parent

I had vague plans to have children one day then at about 29-30 I got ridiculously broody. I don't even like babies but seeing them made me cry. It was a very strong, physical urge. Took a while to get pregnant and had first baby at 33, just after 10th wedding anniversary. Second baby was a result of month of trying at 36. Would have loved another but happy with the two girls we have now.

I never really liked babies and was never broody. I turned 33 and I became desperate for a baby, it was a very strange and extremely powerful urge. I am now a mother to 4 year old twins and even though it has turned my world upside down it was the best thing that's happened to me.

I am most definately done though, nothing can make me have anymore.

Surprise pregnancy almost a year to the day after an abortion.

I had decided as soon as it was over that I could never do it again and so that was that really.

Ds is 3 now and the best thing I ever did

I fell pg by accident at 19. Decided to keep the baby but was conflicted and had some doubts. Went in at 13w for the 12w scan and had had a mmc. Would have done anything to have the baby back. Was v young and had no real coping mechanisms and ended up splitting with DP. Got back together a couple of years later and pretty much picked up where we left off; DD was born less than a year after we got back together.
She was a hard work baby and I very definitely didn't want another until she was about 2.5, when all of a sudden I very definitely did! Hard to explain - was totally not rooted in logic or thought (was busy with other stuff at the time that made a baby a v bad idea!) - I just needed a baby, to the point it was like an ache in my heart. Dropped the other stuff I was doing and after another mmc and mc, DS was born last year. I utterly adore him.
I want one more, but don't have the same broody ache this time - more that I feel like there's someone missing. I am utterly devoted to my 2 (and if we never have another I'll still feel so incredibly lucky) but there's definitely room for at least one more - I feel it like an absence. When I think ahead I see myself with 3 (at least!) so am cracking on and fulfilling that vision

I was broody, my body was telling me to have a baby. As a PP I'm definitely in it for the long game, being part of a bigger family is important to me. The little children part is just something to get through for me.

As to actually making that decision - someone really close to me died and he was young, 32. I was 26 at the time and just thought I'm wasting my time by waiting to have children if that's what I want. My husband didn't know my friend well but was also really affected by his death and the decision was made the day of the funeral. Two months later I was pregnant.

I got to my late twenties and started getting broody. It was an itch I just had to scratch. I ended up having three babies in under four years.

Never wanted kids when i was younger. Not in a "I don't like kids" way, just had zero desire to be a mother to one.

Then when I was 26 I fell pregnant by accident. I remember sitting in the toilets in tesco on my lunch doing the test in a complete panic. Then I turned the rest over, saw the positive sign and was grinning like a maniac - I was over the moon. No explanation for it.

Unfortunately I had a miscarriage but was very lucky to fall pregnant a few months later. I now have a gorgeous, wild, 2 year old son who I love more than life itself.

I wasnt that sold on having children. I've never been a 'kids' person but I suppose I just assumed it was something you do and I lived in hope I'd get broody but I didn't! I turned 32 and my dh put a bit of pressure on me so I stopped my pill. I got pregnant first try and was surprised how quickly I adapted to it and I soon became excited. Sadly at my 3 month scan I found out the baby had died. I was absolutely devastated and suddenly I had the most overwhelming and primal desire to have a baby. I honestly felt crazy because I wanted a baby so much. Such a turn around! Anyway sadly another miscarriage followed but third time I got lucky and had a healthy baby boy. Well I am obsessed with this child! I have shocked myself, my dh, my family by how I am with him lol!

Apart from my son, I'm still not a 'kids' person and despite loving him so so much I feel back to how I felt before I had him! I don't feel like I want another child but knowing how that primal feeling can just come out of nowhere I'm keeping an open mind lol!

I didn't. DS was a definite accident when we had only been together 2.5 months, but the best thing that's happened to me. We didn't want him to be an only child so we had DD shortly after who was planned. I don't enjoy baby years though in all honesty although I adored both of them from the moment I saw them and just love watching them grow into real little people with their own personalities
I never thought I'd have children but I'm very glad I did.

Oh and I still don't 'get' other people's kids and I'm not really a people person at all.