Mommy guilt

[Bigmomma28]

Hello people
I'm so upset about something, please let me know if I am being silly. So I have been working part time from home and just started a business a few months ago. Done a bit of business but invoices won't be clearing for a while so I have used all my money for payroll as well as borrowed some from DH. It's my DDs first birthday next week and I can't afford to pay for a birthday cake. I'm so heartbroken, can't stop crying and I feel as if I have failed my daughter. I can't tell DH because he will think I am crazy crying over cake.
It's her first birthday and there will be no cake for her....I feel terrible

You're not even meant to let them have refined sugar at that age.

A child turning one won't realise the significance of the day- they might not even understand about opening presents etc.

Silly.

But agree with PPs that it's odd that DH isn't helping financially with his child and you have to borrow from him. That's bizarre. Doesn't exactly sounds like a partnership

You can make a cake. I had never made one before and I managed for ds' first birthday. The great thing is she is only one, she has no idea what a cake should look like. Lots of years ahead for fancy cake and parties when she will appreciate it more.
I agree you need a proper conversation with dh about finances though.

Oh, and when a bit of money does come in, a quick picture of her with a little cake with one candle in so that you can show her her 'first' birthday. She doesn't need to know if it was a bit late!