Pregnant with third after big age gap, advice please?

[Kayleighann]

We decided to start ttc in December but after talking about it realised we have such a good thing going with our 2 children, life's easy and enjoyable and decided to stick with 2 providing it wasn't already to late, well I've just found out I'm pregnant a few days ago.
I'm now feeling really panicky about having another one after such a big age gap.
I hardly slept last night worrying.
I'm worried about sleepless nights again, my son had health probs and was in hospital a lot so it terrifies me that something bad will happen again.
I'm worried the kids will be upset with a screaming baby in the house,
We have a 3 bed house so someone's going to have to share and with such a big age gap it doesn't seem right.
I'm worried about holidays and days out with 3 kids, the price the stress.
The big age gap meaning no one wants to go to same place.
Has anyone got a similar age gap?
I think because we decided not to go for a third I've talked my self out of it with all the negatives about having a third and now ive terrified myself. Xx

Yes u are right things change and all tho we are not in a position to move now we may well be in the future.

I spoke with oh last night and had a heart to heart we are literally freaking out about exactly the same things but said that as we are both feeling the same we can overcome all the worries and anxiety together.
I feel a bit less panicky today. Altho I know once the horrendous hormones and sickness kick in I will be back to panicking again lol xx

12 years between my 2.

We have a 2 bed and couldn't make DS1 share. DS2 is still in with us at 17 months but we're hopefully going to change downstairs for DS1 to have a room down there.

I was extremely sick from 6 weeks and if DS1 had been younger I don't think I would've coped.
DS1 has been fantastic, a real helper and DS2 thinks he's great.

Days out are sometimes tricky as DS1 is 13 now but swimming, walks, parks are ok.

My DC were 9,7 and 5 when my DS was born.
It has been magical. Older DC got fully involved and it was lovely.
Life and routine evolves and baby fits in.
DS4 is now 6 and the apple of everyone's eye. He's very chilled, very sociable and very resilient; having been thrown around by 3 bigger siblings.
Go for it.

My older two are 10 and 12 and absolutely adore their little baby sister. The dynamic is wonderful. They go off to school and I'm with the baby and they play with her and cuddle her and help out. So far it's so much better than I'd hoped, especially when my older dd was so upset when she found out I was pregnant. Complete turn around when she was born. Baby dd is in with us at the moment but we are having a loft conversion which means ds will get a better room and baby will get his small room.

Mine are 10 7 (almost) and 2. The age gap means the older ones can help out. You get to have 1 2 1 with your baby as the others are at school. The older ones can see to themselves ie feeding dressing toilet so it's only baby you need to sort out.
Downsides are they out number you, you need a bigger car , holidays cost more. In fact everything costs more as a family of 5! Days out can be hard as with a big age gap it's hard to find something that pleases everybody.
I found that baby slotted in with the routine we already had. You need to be more organised. Mentally dc3 pushed me over the edge I suffered with PND (still do) I don't know why I struggled as he was an easy baby .

Hi @Kayleighann, just reading through this post and wondering how things turned out? Hope all is well and you family are enjoying your new addition!

That's quite a similar age gap to the one between my younger brother and I. I can't talk about the sleepless nights, but I can tell you that my older brother and I adored my younger brother and loved playing with him all the way through our teens. We still have a great relationship with him. It's not the same as the relationship you have with a sibling the same age, but it's great.

And I just saw this is a zombie thread!