where to put baby to sleep?

[kbaby]

Sorry if this sounds a silly question.

At the moment I have 3 week old dd sleeping in a moses basket in our room, However I suspect that she doesnt like being in the basket as she wakes frequently. I was going to see if she would sleep better in her cot(if this doesnt work ill try buying a new mattress for the basket), but is it ok to put a newborn into a cot. Also all the info about SIDS says that the baby is to sleep in your room until 6 months old as this helps reduce the risk. Does anyone know why exactly? how would sharing a room help reduce the risk?

Dh reckons that i get up at least once an hour to check on Dd in her basket in the night (she's 3 months old - sleeps for 7 hours straight). I don't remember doing it at all, but I suppose I would wake up properly if she'd got tangled up in her blanket or something. Also heard that it's somehting to do with your breathing helping to regulate their breathing.

H/w don't honestly beleive it is more dangerous for them to be in a separate room if you are careful with tucking them in, no rubbish in the cot etc. You can get a monitor called 'Angelcare' which comes with a movement sensor pad which sounds an alarm if the baby doiesn't move for a certain preset time. Really only recomended for premies/babies who have had previous episodes of stopping breathing, but I bought one for my (perfectly healthy baby). H/w not used it much in the end.

Congrats btw.

I had an angelcare monitor for my dd. she was premature and there were problems with her breathing when she was born. but i never used it. i found dd slept better in her own room for some reason. when she went into her own room, she started sleeping throughout the night without waking up. she was a couple of months at the time mind you.

as long as you put dd into a cot using feet to foot, then i wouldnt think there would be a problem

I put my dd in a cot from day 3 - but in our room. She slept fine and Ive had no probs -but as tb says - make sure shes feet to foot.

There would probably be no problem in moving her to a big cot, foot to foot, appropriate layers to temperature etc. I think Kif is right in idea of a more sensitive sleep pattern and also you are more readily able to hear any unusual noises and aware of changes in room temperature etc if you share the same room.

tbh I would have thought a lot of 3 week olds would be light and restless sleepers, as many have not established the differnce between night and day and a longer sleep pattern at night yet and would still need fairly frequent feeding. So it may be a bit early to assume she is uncomfortable in her basket. She may simply wake up needing reassurance or just sleep lightly.

If you think you are going to be more worried and get less sleep by being anxious about her in her own room then imho it is worth persisting with the basket, or see if you can fit the cot in with you.

Hi Kbaby my dd hated her moses bassket and we persevered for 6 weeks before putting her into her cot. She slept much better straight away (tho not through the night!) and was a lot happier. We also use the Angelcare monitor, which I love. There is a light that flashes in time with their breathing and it's so reassuring to wake up at night and glance over to see it- my dd is almost 5 months and I still use it all the time- it was the best purchase I ever made

(Some people hate them...)

I'm sure your dd would be fine in the cot, as lond as she was in the feet to foot position. I think they advise having them in your room because you subconsciously listen to their breathing in your sleep and can detect any changes, which you might not notice through a monitor.

HTH- good luck

I think one of the reasons why SIDSs risk is decreased if you have baby with you is that they pick up on your breathing rhythms (some newborns forget to breathe) I have some research info somewhere I'll try and look it out.

Saying that, both mine were noisy sleepers and so were in their cots with an amgelcare monitor from an early age.

Both mine hated the moses basket. I had them in bed with us to begin with. My ds was with us for 6 months. Since I was bfing it was far easier for me. We then put him in a cot in his own room and did controlled crying and he was sleeping through the night quite contentedly within days. (He's 3.5 and still a good sleeper). We moved dd out of our bed at around 3 months as she didn't sleep well next to us and was sleeping 5 hours at a time, so getting up to bfeed wasn't so bad. We moved her into a cot in ds's room. She's 1.5 now and sleeps through the night most nights.
I don't think they really know that much about sids. I think it's possible that there is a higher incidence of sids in babies that are not in their parents rooms. However, I don't think they know whether this is directly related, (ie putting your baby in another room increases chances of sids) or whether this is a parallel relations (ie parents who keep babies in their rooms also tend to be parents who bfeed and bfeeding reduces risk of sids....so if you keep your baby in another room but still bf then your just as well off). A bit garbled, but does that make sense?

my ds went into a cot the day we got home properly (we stayed up my mums for the first week)
as the others have said the reason for them being in the same room as you for six months is to teach them to breath properly but alot of people put them in there own room from birth we got the cot in our room because we got a bit of room but i would definatly say get yourself a angel care sound and movement monitor we got one and it was the best buy we had ever brought which is sad realy because we got two moses baskets to sell now because he wouldnt go in one
hth

dd has been in her cot from day 4 (first day home from hospital). Foot to foot and then in the newborn grobag. She was a noisy sleeper at first but is quite quiet now at 12wks. We have the cot beside our bed and it is very easy to move her into the bed to feed without disturbing dh.

I put our dd in to a smaller than average Ikea cot from birth, always in our room until 6 months though until her snoring got us all ready to be sectioned.
With the appropriate bedding (I used tuck em up damn the expense which was very reassuring)
it is easier and you do not have the worry of them transferring when older and not liking the cot after the snugness of the basket...