AIBU to try and juggle both??

[peachy2410]

Just had a row with OH over lo's first year jabs. They are happening on Wed (postponed once as she was ill). The apmt was sent through the post straight from the doctors. My intention is to work from home the day after the jabs in case she needs me but at my parents so they can help me if i need it to do a couple of conference calls. OH is currently unemployed and is on a course- which I've loaned him the money for but that's by the by. He's just made out that I'm neglectful as I haven't booked the next day off in case she's ill! I know they are bad injections and I know she'll need me but I'm trying really hard to juggle the demands of my job and my lg and I think I'm doing ok! He does nothing except play with her a bit and change the odd nappy including financial help. But he's just had a massive go at me for not changing the appointment or booking holidays! AIBU? I'm off work after taking her for jabs but trying to balance the next day!

He is being a prat! Why doesn't he spend the day with her if he is that concerned?
In any case neither of my children were ill after any of their jabs so she might be fine.

Awww I hope so! I'm really worried about them cos everyone else I know has been really ill! He never has her on his own- he doesn't know what to do and gets frustrated (and shitty which is rather childish!)

I don't know anyone who has booked the next day off after first year jabs.
If it's any consolation DD1 had absolutely zero reaction to hers. DD2 got a temperature around days 8-10 after but that was all.

I don't think you need to book the next day off for jabs. My DC was ok- bit restless that night but otherwise fine.
More importantly why has your OH never had his child on his own?

I don't know anyone who had a bad reaction to their 1 year jabs. Perhaps the odd one who needed some calpol and an extra cuddle but nothing requiring a patents day off work!

DCs x2 also had zero reaction (apart from crying at the actual jab). Wouldn't have occurred to me to book the day off.

Your OH is the difficulty here.

Phew thanks everyone - was feeling super shitty and if I was letting her down.

He had her once on his own when she was little and she cried and he couldn't cope so I ended up coming home. He can't comfort her when she cries he just tells her "to give over/be quiet" (not in such nice terms which I HATE!) which a) she doesn't understand and b) doesn't help! He can cope with playing but basically says she's too clingy to me (maybe cos I do everything else)- he can't get her to sleep - apparently only I can - nursery and my parents can in a buggy no probs.

My daughter was ill a couple of weeks after those jabs. That's not uncommon because the underlying diseases have long incubation periods so the reaction takes a while. I hadn't realised and she was at her worst while we were on holiday.

Shit.... might be a rubbish Xmas :(( at least I'm off to look after her!

We had a bit of a reaction with DS. But NO reasons not to work - even then he just had a shitty nights sleep, felt a bit sorry for himself and was arsey, and had some calpol. Nothing dramatic!

Sounds like you're a single parent, tbh. So it's a bit rich of him to pull the parenting card now.

Why are you with this man? He doesn't seem like he's being a partner to you. He seems like he's sponging off you and can't be bothered to even do the basics for his own child.

Wtf? Why are you even questioning it he sounds like a grade A twat
Not being at all flippant but have you considered leaving him?

Yes but worry about access :(

Does he have a mum around?

If not, I think you'll find he won't end up looking for much access, despite what he might claim.