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9 year old finds socialising tricky

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Wargghhhh · 11/12/2016 23:34

Hello

My 9 year old DD is a quiet introverted soul who I really worry about! She has few friends and doesn't get invited to many parties. Saying that, she seems to be perfectly happy.

I've noticed when she has friends round (not often) or when she is at a party she makes no effort at all to chat with her friends - she will stand with them and sit with them but not really interact.

Many of her class mates seems to be confident little things, who chitter chatter away with each other - whereas my DD will just be there standing or sitting quietly on the periphery of everything.

Is there anything I can do to help her I think? I totally get how she is as I'm an introvert, however, I've always struggled socially and I REALLY don't want her to struggle like I have! She does loads of classes outside of school, is happy to do dance shows etc and has just started drama - never gets picked for any major parts though!

She is confident with adults, but really does seem to struggle with children. Another issue we have is that she finds it hard to articulate herself sometimes and ends up saying 'um um um' a lot, which can be quite frustrating.

Do you think this is something she might grow out of? Is there anything else I can do?

She is a lovely, kind little girl but I worry so much about her!

Thanks

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missmodular2 · 12/12/2016 07:49

She sounds like my dd. I don't worry about it too much because, like yours, she seems perfectly happy being on the periphery rather than the centre of things. But regarding the speech thing, have you spoken to her about strategies she could use when she's lost for words? Like trying to visualise what she wants to say, good phrases to use, using a clear voice etc. Not in a critical way, quite often when im trying to advise my dd I often talk about me having the problem and how I sort it out! I think you're doing the right thing signing her up for drama. If she gets on fine with adults I reckon that's a good sign that she'll grow out of it as her peers will be adults soon enough Smile hope that helps!

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