Rough handed ds with dd

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Ds 22 months is becoming quite a nightmare with dd (3)

If he's having a tantrum and she's in the way he attacks her

He particularly likes getting hold of his hair and pulling it as hard as can

I'm trying to encourage dd not to take toys off him as that's a big trigger but he needs to learn he can't just take things off her either or attack.

My nethod at the moment, because he's so young, is simply picking him up under his arms (so away from me) and sat down in the corner away from dd.

I then go over and give dd a big cuddle and make sure she's ok in his eye sight.

Afterwards I'm going over to him, telling him a big firm no "such as no pulling hair. It's naughty" and walking away.

After that punishments over so if he wants a cuddle he can have one or he wants to go and play that's fine.

Does this sound ok? I don't want to go overboard because he's so young but at the same time, dd needs protecting too.

Sounds fine to me.

Ah good. Thank you

I want him to see that by actually attacking dd, she gets the attention he wants so it does him no good

That sounds fine to me, this can't continue and you're doing the right thing to stop it.

Sounds perfectly reasonable! Can he say sorry yet? As in saying sorry to his sister, or maybe give her a hug or something to express remorse and acknowledge that he hurt her... Although I'm not sure if that'd be more appropriate when he's a bit older?

No not yet.

He's a bit immature really. No real speech apart from the basics like mummy, daddy, Dd's name, yes, no but other than that not much else. A lot of baby babble

He'll still get the message (eventually!)

Repetition repetition repetition

At DGSs nursery, they gently stroke a child's arms and hands and say 'kind hands, gentle hands' in a soft voice.

We do a say sorry stroke which the older also had to do until recently as he was a late talker. Otherwise quite similar to you. Kids are two next month and 3yrs 3months.

I have to be firm with my 10 month old as he can be very rough with my toddler and the cat. He understands No! and my cross face, I wag my finger too lol. I obviously then move him away from the victim and if he goes back to do the same again I repeat.

I think consistency is key and make them realise you mean business. Children need boundaries and I think even when they're little it's possible to correct them without being mean.