Me and DH vomiting, baby needs us!

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We have a 7mo and no family nearby. DH and I are both sick, shivers, bum squirts, vomit.

Baby never settles himself and will often wake just after we put him down and then every 40 mins in the night to be rocked back to sleep. Already woken twice from his nap and screamed just now.

This has hit us suddenly today. Can barely drag ourselves out of bed. Getting up prompts nausea and shivers. What do we do? This is the first time we've both been so ill with the baby here!

Leave him to cry if we know he's fed? Get up with a bucket? Help

oh god. being so sick when you have a baby is awful, I've been there - but I did have family come round. Where does he sleep?

Can't the baby sleep in your room near you so that you can settle without getting up? Sounds like he is a terrible sleeper if he is waking every 4 months (sympathies - I've been there too) - could be the time to crack it!

I sleep trained my own bad sleeper at 7 months and feel no guilt aout it whatsoever, just patted him while he cried, he fell asleep after a whlie and stopped waking within a night! so you absolutely should not feel bad about letting a baby that age have a bit of a cry. especially if you can lie down next to the cot/ patting/ singing if you can manage it.!

if he cant sleep in your room - could you make a bed up on the floor by his cot so if he waes you can comfort him without getting up...put your hands in the cot pat him/sing to him etc.

You poor sods can you bring the baby to your room and take it in turns or have baby in bed with you, hope you feel better soon this has happened to us but was a terrible few days that you just need to muddle through

I'd take it in turns I think so you both get decent stretches of rest. It's awful I know taking care of children when you are ill yourself, hopefully it will pass quickly.

Fwiw this bug only seems to last 48hrs max

If you are being ill you will need to let him cry if you cant get to him just one of those things but he will be fine though

Maybe bring the baby into your room so you don't have to travel too far, and probably stay off MN until you're feeling better, looking at a screen probably isn't going to help

We had this when dd was around 5 months. It was awful. Every time she breastfed i would throw up. We just got dd in bed with us and got through as best we could. Sometimes you just survive and deal with the carnage afterward.

I would bring him in bed and tale turns also would say crying wont do him any harm if you can't get to him. I would look at sleep training too my first was a bloody awful sleeper it nearly broke me I waited til 11 months to sleep train i wish i done it earlier ds2 will be sleep trained at 6 months if not sleeping long stretches by then.

Oh no! You poor things! How awful! My husband and I had awful norovirus when our son was 11 months. It was the worst day of our lives, so ill and with a baby to look after. We luckily had family living an hour away who came to help. Could you possibly pay for a childminder/local babysitter to take your baby overnight? Is there a neighbor who could help?

Single mother here of 4 kids here. Can confirm sickness and parenting is the worst thing ever.

There is no shortcut just repeat this will pass this will pass. Set yourself up in the bedroom. Bring the baby in and just ride it out.

On the bright side this is as good a time as any to crack the need for your baby to be rocked back to sleep - because if it's anything like the big going round here you literally won't have the physical energy to do it.

Bring baby into your room but not in your bed. Soothe, stroke DS's hand, let him know you're there but he'll just have to cry it out and get back to sleep without being rocked.

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You poor things, that is horrific. Do you have friends nearby you can ask? Many will remember being unwell with a baby and have sympathy. If not, I agree with Cmere to take it in turns - at least psychologically it may be better that way .

If you cannot get help I'd have him inbetween you both in bed, have everything baby related in the bed, also buckets, tissues, water etc. Do you have any diaorolyte? Very good at preventing dehydration. Sending hugs to you xxx

Oh my god thank you for all your kind replies! Loads of good suggestions, we are going to bring him in with us and see how we get on. Family member might be able to travel to help tomorrow. Thanks all for your sympathy!!

We have no family in the country and I had it once when it was just me as OH was working away. Toddler and I vomiting, baby fine. We stayed in the living room so baby could play on the floor and put lots of films on. That worked best, I found. Hope you are feeling better today.
Doing cooking/cleaning/getting child to school when husband away and no family and you are vomiting yourself is a whole different story

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Firstly, massive sympathy. We had a hugely persistent tummy bug that all three of us got at least twice during September / October. 'Twas grim. But luckily we never had both parents properly ill at the same time. Controversial on here but now might be a decent time for sleep training. Waking every 40 mins at seven months is unsustainable, you poor things. We did it at six months and our up to feed every 90 mins baby started doing eight hour stretches. Appreciate that it's not for everyone though. for you both.

This exact scenario is my definition of selfless parenting. When DC is crying and might need something, and you know you'll vomit if you move. Good luck and I hope it doesn't last too long for you. Flat coke and BRAT diet.