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Those who have 1 boy & 1 girl - what's it like?

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RobinRandom · 02/12/2016 09:53

Hello all,

I had one tiny boy and now have just had a wee girl.

I have no brothers and DH has the opposite (loads of each) so I really don't know what a 1 boy/1 girl dynamic is like.

Are yours close? Do they stay close in their teens or not so much? Do they ever miss having a same gender sibling?

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AbbeyRoadCrossing · 02/12/2016 09:56

Mine are only little so can't comment on the teenager thing but they get on great. I think that's other factors such as the small age gap and personality rather than them being a boy and girl though.

flukeshot · 02/12/2016 09:57

Congratulations!!
My boy is 6 and my girl is 4 and they looove each other.
My son was always very adoring of his little sister from when she was first born and she adores him right back. They squabble and frustrate each other but ALWAYS back each other up if I am cross with one of them and have a great time together.
I have both sisters and brothers and although I am closer to my sister, we all still get along really well... we hated each other as teens though!

foxessocks · 02/12/2016 09:59

I have a boy and a girl but they are both tiny at the moment. I have an older brother though and never missed having a same sex sibling. We played together a lot as kids until he got too old and cool to play with me. We weren't that close as teenagers I guess but got on fine just had our own separate lives going on. As older teens we did go to the pub together and we both worked in the same pub for a while! He used to make sure I got home safely after a night out bless him. We are good friends now as adults , he doesn't live that close but we talk regularly.

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Seeline · 02/12/2016 10:00

I don't think the gender makes a huge difference. Some siblings are close, others aren't. My two are 12 and 14 now (boy is the older) and whether they get on seems to go in waves. I think it is more to do with the age difference (2.8yrs) than their gender. Sometimes their abilities/interests seemed to converge at others they seemed miles apart. That seems to have reduced now they are older.
From a 'management' point of view, there are difficulties in that they rarely have the same interests/hobbies so I am constantly having to split my self in two to have them at different places at the same time. We have also never had the benefit of both going of to scout camp at the same time etc.
I had had very little dealings with boys before DS arrived. I treated him much the same as I would have done a girl in the early stages, and then became led by him as he got older.

cheekyfunkymonkey · 02/12/2016 10:00

Congratulations. We have one of each and they play really well together and love each other fiercely. It's a great dynamic.

corythatwas · 02/12/2016 11:15

Mine are grown up/nearly grown up now, still very close but also able to give each other space, don't think they miss having a same gender sibling.

I was the only girl with 3 brothers, but we seemed to have most interests in common: most things aren't actually that closely gendered. Dd also had lots of male friends who shared her interests. That sort of thing is luck of the draw (and perhaps to some extent parental attitude) rather than gender.

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