Broody at 26

[Ready2bemum]

Hi everyone,

I don't really know why I'm doing this i suppose I just want to let my feelings out.

I have just turned 26 been with my partner 9 years we are v happy getting married in 2018. Saving for a house. Even though everything's great I can't help feeling incomplete. In my heart I am so ready to be a mum but in my mind I no we need to wait till we're married and have got a house

We are both excited about becoming parents and I like to think and hope we will be good at it too.

A lot of women my age are pregnant or have children and I can't help feeling jealous! how do I stop feeling like this? I know it's normal but I want to get it out of my head as I no it will happen but I just have to wait a bit longer! I guess there's a bit of fear there too as I'm scared that when we are ready to have one that it takes longer than I expected. I don't want to get too old! Sorry for going on but need some good female advise if anyone can help?

Thank you! Xx

Hi ready, if you and your partner are ready to be parents I don't really see why you feel you need to wait. I had my DD at 26 and whilst we were married and bought a house by then I don't think that's necessary anymore to have a family. People don't judge unmarried parents these days.

I don't have any advice on how to stop being broody, I'm not sure whether that can be stopped?? But I guess what I'm saying is that if 'married and house' are your only reasons to wait, I think you could work around that if you really wanted to. There will always be something to make you think it's not the right time (eg money, new job, family drama) so if you both want to start a family now, I don't see why that should stop you.

Thanks ChipIn, I wish it was that easy we're having to save a lot of money for our wedding and getting a house.

If I fell pregnant now we would handle it but unfortunately because of money we are waiting till we've had the wedding. I know everyone says your never financially ready etc but I know it will be better for us once we know we've paid for our wedding and tbh I do really want a house before but I suppose we don't have to buy before a baby comes along

I still can't stop feeling sad that we don't have one yet x

Have your baby now and down size the wedding. Your wedding day is exactly that a day a child is a lifetime of happiness. Would you love your dp any less for having a simple wedding or wasting thousands on a lavish big do?

Hi uhoh we're already having a small wedding but no matter what there so expensive! I do no what your saying but still want my wedding day to be beautiful. I think I just want everything all at once! I know it doesn't work like that 😂

Decide what is best for you and your dp not anyone else, is he wanting a baby now too?

Hmmm I just spoke with him and he said it wouldn't scare him if I did fall pregnant. He's excited to be a dad but sensible us is like wait till 2018 after wedding but I don't want to be feeling like this for next year! X

Like you said yourself you can never be financially ready for a baby. Do it when it feels right for both of you, you could easily pop one out before you're wedding in 2018 if that's what you both want. In my experience you cut your cloth accordingly when you have a child because you don't have any other option.

I wish we had started earlier ( had DD 1 at 31), and if I could go back I would have much smaller wedding. I thought the big wedding was important. I was wrong. If you feel the time is right and want to be married it is possible....

Haha 'easily pop one out' thanks for the chat just need to get my feelings out. I'm happy I've spoken with my fiancé too so at least he's knows how I feel now too

It's ok to have one before the wedding! But I suppose it depends when in 2018 you will be tying the knot. I'm not sure getting married with a brand new newborn would be overly easy leaking boobs on wedding dress

I would say like PPs have, there is never ever a good time to have a baby, so just go for it. And you don't know how long it will take to get pregnant, so may as well start now :)

I had my son at 26, not married yet, but soon!

Hi making

We're getting married in June 2018 😊

Since I was feeling so emotional the other day I've been v open with my partner. He's being v supportive. Now that I've got it all out I feel so much better and no matter whether we've bought a house or not in 2018 we're gonna start trying after our wedding.

I know it might take a while by I think I just needed clarification that we will def start trying after wedding

I feel so much better now and I know we have something to aim towards 😊 X

Could you move the date of the wedding closer? We had a large traditional wedding six months after engagement. It is doable. Cut back on costly things. Sadly it took a while to get pregnant but we had two with 15months then after.