Worlds worst mother

[Grimnorthener]

I feel like the worlds worst mother at the moment I just want to cry.

Ever since my 3 year old moved from him for to a real bed about 3 months ago, he stopped sleeping 7-7 and hasn't slept through the night since. His routine has remained the same and it's stories and sleep by 7:30. But he can then be up 3 or 4 times in the night, sometimes crying, sometimes trying to get in with me. Until about a fortnight ago I would just lament and drag him in with me for peace but he is such a fidget and takes up so much space I just wasn't sleeping.

So every time he wakes up in the night I return him to his own bed, 9 times out of 10 this results in hysterics. I got a gro clock about a week ago but so far he has just totally ignored it. He is also up for the day anytime between 4:30 and 5:30.

He has bags under his eyes and his behaviour is shot to shit. He is grumpy and misbehaves which I think is due to being so tired. I work full time and I feel like the only times I see him I am arguing with him through the night or a walking, moody zombie in the morning. I am so, so, so exhausted.

Between work and not sleeping I don't have the energy to play with him in the evenings, it's all I can do not to walk through the door and go straight to bed.

Please help. Help me figure out how to get him to stay in bed. I could accept he is an early riser if only he would stay in bed. I feel so guilty, like I must be doing something wrong

:(

Does he have something he could cuddle?
At some point DS said he was afraid of wolves in his room and we sorted it with a cuddly dog.

somebody instantly suggesting blocking out screaming with a pillow as a first port of call without trying to find out from the child what actually might be the problem

who the fuck said this?

Oddly enough I supposed that any right minded person would presume you'd check there was nothing actually wrong before you went to the ignoring stage.

But the ignoring stage exists. Was my point.

"When I was desperate" = clearly not the first port of call.

My three year old gets into bed with me because he is cold or he needs a cuddle last nights excuse was I scared I'm not too bothered as he will stop doing it eventually

He sleeps sideways too which is uncomfortable so I turn him if he moans I tell him to sleep in his own bed! Which seemed to work