6 year old's behaviour

[rocketqueen]

I've just been to my son's parents evening. Apparantly he is an intelligent boy who can do his work etc but his behaviour is pretty bad. He's always been a handful but he seems to be getting worse, the other day he was told off 3 times BEFORE REGISTRATION and the rest of the day he was skidding up and down corridoors, shouting, fidgiting, messing around and generally playing up, what really got the teachers back up was when she got really angry at him and shouted at him he stood there with a huge grin on his face. Nothing seems to bother him.

The teacher said he definately tries to be the clown and he's popular with the other kids but for the wrong reasons, he's one of 2 boys in the entire class that has a behavioural report card. She said there are a few kids in his class with behavior problems but the others have excuses...problems at home etc, my son has no excuses and actually makes the others worse to the point where he usually ends up having to sit on his own. He has to sit near the teacher in assembly too otherwise he just messes around.

If he's like this now in Year 1 what will he be like in a few years time??? any experience/advice would be appretiated.

Could be he is bored and not being stretched enough by lessons, so is using his brain for other things.

It's not realistic to think that you can do very much about his behaviour at school - it's not very professional for a teacher to lose her temper with a 6 year old.

But of course you must try to support the school in disciplining your child.

Talk to him about his behaviour - explain that the teacher has to look after 30 children, not just him.

Reiterate to the teacher that she has your full support and that you will do whatever you can. Say that you would like her to tell you immediately of any bad behaviour so that you can discuss it with your child.

The idiots at secondary school aren't necessarily the naughty ones from primary school - lots of 6 year olds behave badly if they can get away with it. He is attention seeking and at the moment the teacher is playing the game just the way he wants her to.

my ds was like this but he now uses his energy in after school activities, football, swimming, tennis, art club, etc. and seems to be a lot calmer and more focused,

Thanks for the replies, I really want to take him to a martial arts class but he said he doesn't want to go, should I force him to at least try it?

no - ask him what he wants to do.

personally i would be of the " you must sit and listen in class - do you hear me?!" stern telling off

whilst secretly thinking he is 6

i love 'em when they are 6

i'm having problems with my ds 6 mucking about at school and clowning too.
What sort of sanctions work for other people? He's not that bothered about watching telly. Do other people find star charts work?

when my son was at primary school i used to see teacher fairly regularly - i arranged to go in for a time - is that anoption -? one day a week or an after noon?

i have also arranged int he past:

ds doing some art work/poem/writing at home to be put up in school/class

good slips home - to be put up on door ( still do this they are nearly 14!!)

5 min chat with teacher after school day or 10 min chat on a friday.

ds to be given specific job of importance iwthin the class - so looking after gerbil/plant/turning off the computers/ collecting books - whatever - as long as the job has assoicated with it a high status!

My ds is 6 and is the same, the class clown, well him and another few boys.

I am trying bribery atm..telling him I will speak to his teacher every day and the days he does no behave he does not get to watch The Simpsons... not sure if its working yet...

thanks, those are good ideas. I think my ds has been slowly getting the upper hand in the last few months since he's perfected teenager style attitudes and cheek - I'm really thrown by it as he's only just 6! I think I'm floundering a bit and need to wrest back the upper hand somehow.