How do you deal with the ignoring?

[NoCapes]

I'm seriously at the end of my tether with this
DC in question are 7 & 5 and I can not tell you how many times I have to say it to get them to do annnnnything
And I mean anything - eat their food, put their shoes on, brush their teeth, stop brushing their teeth, tidy up (oh the fucking tidying up!!!)

I have to say it literally 15/20 times and even then until I am actually screaming at the top of my voice until my throat hurts nothing happens

Case in point; tonight we were meant to have a movie night, I've bought chocolate milk and popcorn, so I'm trying to get them to tidy up so we can get in our jammies and I can put the film on, there really wasn't a lot of toys out as they'd been mostly in the garden, should've took 5 minutes to tidy
After 45 minutes of me telling them to tidy every 5 minutes or so I went in to check and the 7 year old was lay on the floor, 5 year old lay ontop of him and toys still strewn around
I gave up, screamed at them and put them in bed - I also had to tell the 5 year old 6 times to put her pjs on while I was standing right over her!!

I feel bad that they were in bed at 6:45 but I just can not live like this anymore
What the fuckity fuck is wrong with my children??!!?!

Tooth brushing - well, DD's dentist would tell you that you should still be brushing their teeth at their age do that's that one sorted.

I'm not very strict but I wouldn't get to asking that many times, in fact I get cross if I have to ask 3 times!

Agree with breaking it down to manageable chunks but also be kind and help if they seem overwhelmed.

Food I can't help with, unless it's an absolute favourite or breakfast DD is a real dawdler. I have now started to set the timer. If I can be bothered I'll read to her. Or, if DH is there and I'm really fed up, I walk out and leave them to it .

Nocapes. The idea of consequences is that if you are consistent then eventually you stop having to give them ( or at least rarely) as the warning becomes enough. So it's short term pain for long term gain. You don't have to do time outs, what about withdrawal of priveledges? Loss of screen time etc.. But also some situations you can make it fit the crime, so throwing food in the bin if they aren't eating (no snacks till next mealtime).
And I agree with pp that you should still be brushing their teeth for them.

Thankyou for all your suggestions, some are really helpful and some I'm going to steal

I go over their teeth at the end, but they will never learn if I do it for them forever - DS is 7 for goodness sake, he needs to know how to brush his own teeth!

How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk

Fab book. Was Mumsnet book of the year a few years ago

I photocopied the cartoons and stuck them on our bathroom mirror so DH would read too as he's never going to read a parenting book!!