My husband is constantly correcting my pronunciation.

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I am from a nice area and I think if you spoke to me you would think I spoke quite nicely or would say just normally. I have no accent. However my husband is constantly correcting me. He says I am dropping my 'h's. I am finding it difficult to have a normal conversation with him because every time we are just chatting away normally he will correct me which really grates on me and ruins the flow of conversation.

I am also on maternity leave so often he is the only adult I speak to all day, so to not be able to have a normal conversation with even him is getting me down. We have been married quite a number of years but this problem seems to have got worse in the last 12 months. He says because my speech has deteriorated and he doesn't want our children to pick up my poor prenunciation.

I tried to speak to him today about it but he said I was being ridiculous and starting an argument over nothing and being over sensitive.

Any advice on what to do about this.

Yes but still pull him on it not in front of the DCs. Undermining each other isn't very nice for your DCs.

How long have you been together? Has he started undermining you in other ways since you got pregnant/gave birth? It often changes the dynamics in a relationship and can bring out people's nasty/controlling side unfortunately

Believe: it's all done in a jokey kind of way. We take the piss out of each other and eye roll. This is not what undermining means to me and Dh. Our first parenting rule is not to undermine the other one. Eg If DH said the kids couldn't do something but I thought he was being harsh (and vice versa) we would go into another room to discuss it till we reached a compromise. I wouldn't go against what he said as that's undermining him.

Correcting grammar in a good-humoured banter type of way is nothing like undermining the other person with parenting rules and boundaries. Our kids are very well-behaved. And speak with correct use of grammar.

I really feel for you. I would tell him outright that his behaviour is demeaning and it's is making you loose your confidence. Don't be rude to him like I was rude to my husband.

My husband is Scottish and keeps pointing out that I lengthen my vowels (from Essex) and he shortens them. I don't ever mention how he speaks other than if he talks with his mouth full.
Tonight he corrected me when I was talking about Bilbao in Spain, saying I didn't pronounce that properly. My husband is half Basque (not allowed to say Spanish) and half Anglo Indian) After being corrected I did a bad thing and told him to go 'fuck himself'

I am now getting so paranoid about the way I speak I am investigating having elocution lessons.

His sister is a speech therapist
. Her accent is like a posh Scottish accent. I have given up talking to her on the phone because my husband has made me paranoid about the way I am speaking.

Is it possible that your speech HAS deteriorated? This happened with a friend of mine and also a family member. They didn't sound good. Friend developed a habit of saying "hisself", and also after every sentence "if ya know wha' ah mean." Made me want to play wac-a-mole, with her as the mole! And then a close family member randomly started dropping all her gs, so swimming became swimmin and walking became walkin. She doesn't do it any more. Maybe her hubby had a word!

Point is, it sounded so awful because they hadn't always done it - for whatever reason, their speech did deteriorate. It definitely happens. If your H has a point, be glad that someone told you!

Do YOU think you drop your h's? If you haven't always done this, and if your family and friends don't drop them, I can see that it would be embarrassing and irritating. I wouldn't like it if my partner went from saying "How are you?" to "'Ow are you?" and from "Happy birthday!" to "'Appy birthday!" I'd find it a right turn-off. Think if he has a point before you get angry with him.

Thank you Boby67555 but whilst I don't claim to be the smartest person, I do hold a degree in English so I'm probably not idiot territory. Thanks for the input though, he does occasionally still do it so I will consider how he feels.