I've posted fairly extensively re my split with h last year. At the moment, after a year of living with his gf) he is now in a flat on his own as wants to try to reconcile and I think we need at least six months apart etc, counselling etc, may not work, no more upset for the girls, etc - or as little as possible. My elder dd, 4.5 is incredibly sensitive and emotional anyway but has seemed to be okay generally over the last month or so - since he left his gf. H has explained he'll be around more, we'll do more things together as a family but that he's not back at home - ie, has his own flat. My nanny was approached by dd's teacher at school who said that dd has been very emotional, clingy towards her and the assistant teacher, less eager to play with the other children - she's normally very gregarious. The teachers (who are FANTASTIC) realised there must have been a change at home. I'm going in to speak to the teacher on Monday but am rather flummoxed. I was SO worried elder dd would get confused (lots of daddy's things around the house again, more frequent visits, although he always saw an awful lot of them anyway. And all of us, me, h and my wonderful nanny can't believe that we didn't pick up on this. Am going to see a counsellor - specialises in family problems etc, but anyone any short-term advice - apart from lots of reassurance etc, etc. Sorry, very, very long.