Hi, I've name changed for this as I don't want to out myself. I have a 13 year old son who is just going into year nine. He has had the same group of friends since primary school and I am very friendly with his friends Mum's and regularly spend time with them on nights out, coffee and even occasional weekends away etc. I would really appreciate some advice as I find myself in a tricky situation and I have been awake most off the night fretting about this. DS spent quite a lot of time away over summer holidays (we had 3 weeks away and then he went to stay with family for 2 weeks while I was working) and so didn't see much of his friends. Since coming home he seems to have been a bit 'frozen out' of his friendship group. Everything was fine before he left and he spent last weekend with one friend and had plans (he thought) to meet up with that friend for the three days before going back to school this week. But on Monday his friend didn't answer his texts and so my ds didn't actually end up spending the day with him as planned. I bumped into the friends Mum on Monday evening who clearly thought my ds had been put with the group to the cinema that day - he hadn't, he had no idea his friends had gone out and obviously wasn't invited. I didn't say anything to ds. Then all week his friends have ignored his texts and not invited him to go anywhere with them. My ds is putting on a brave face but I can see he is very hurt and upset. He has no idea what is going on really but is getting quite upset and defensive if I try and ask him about it. He hasn't done anything to 'fall out' with any of them - all was well over summer holidays and he had had a great time with one friend last weekend and all seemed to be well. I am meant to be going out with the friends Mum's tonight - I really don't know if I can bear to sit there listening to what all the boys have been up to knowing my ds has not been included and is feeling hurt and excluded. Ds doesn't want me to say anything to my friends as he is worried what his friends will think if their Mum's talk to them about it - he says he doesn't want me fighting his battles for him. I would appreciate any advice how to handle this, even if it's just to totally back off but I just feel so sorry for my poor ds. I know my friends would be mortified if they knew or thought the boys were deliberately excluding him but I have promised not to say anything.