Thinking of confiscating toys and books

[Letmesleepalready]

DD1's attitude is getting out of hand at the moment, and I'm tired of her being rude. I've asked her to tidy up the mess of toys and books in the living room, but she just said no, and when she finally did start she just threw things in anger as I'd thrown away a scrap piece of paper she wanted to keep.
I'm seriously thinking of just throwing away anything left on the floor if she doesn't tidy up when I say so (I do give her a warning so it's not like it's a surprise) but maybe I need to work at making tidying a routine first?
She's also starting to lie regularly and I just don't know what to do about that. Our relationship is very strained at the moment and I'm a bit lost. She's 4, so old enough to know better!

What mostly works with my 4yo(there are days when she wouldn't tidy if her life depended on it):

1. We got into the habit of putting one thing away and then taking smth else out. Ex. If she finished with the playdoh,she can't take the paints/dolls etc out until the play doh is put away

2.easy storage boxes,that she can open by herself and everything has it's place. 3.anything left on the floor,she gets a warning and if not gone by the time i start hoovering/brooming it goes in the bin. The same with things thrown,lost under the sofa etc.

1. If it's lost, It's been lost because she hasn't put it away. I take no responsibility and it does not get replaced
2. When i do help,we make it into a race,split up the jobs,tidy up songs etc.

I'm also very messy and was a shocker as a teenager (you literally couldn't see my bedroom carpet, and a friend once asked if I filed my CDs alphabetically on the floor ).

I've got a lot better as an adult but I do feel I'd be very unfair in expecting something of DD that I was incapable of myself when younger!

Good storage is your friend. Can you put up a billy bookcase with storage boxes and baskets in her room? I find that helpful to have one box for Playmobil, one for Happyland, one for Lego etc.

I thought she'd be older from your post, OP - I have a very similar problem with DD1 but she's nearly 9!

DC3 is 4.5 and I generally help him to tidy up - he's much more willing to help than DD1 and it's easier to turn it into a game - races work well!

Sometimes when she does pick something up she'll forget she's meant to be tidying and starts playing again.

Erm, this is me and I am 47.

Well yes, but I was hoping she'd do as I say and not as I do
We do generally have seperate containers per toy type and an ottoman for random things (although that needs sorting soon)
We do try and have enough storage as I used to be incredibly messy due to not enough storage and too much stuff, so we do try and keep things under control quantity wise IYKWIM.