When did you put baby upstairs in the evening?

[milkyman]

My dd is nearly five mths and still sleeps in lounge in the evening.

My twins came home from scbu at 13 days old. They were sleeping upstairs in their cot from 18 days old (which was 36 weeks as they were born at 34 weeks).

Around 1 year. Until 6month minimum for sids and then they were happy so we didn't rush

Somewhere between 5-6 months, no point in worrying about a routine before then, all those who put baby in own room / cot from day one leave me feeling a bit

About 16 weeks. It got to the point that we were either waking her to move her upstairs or one of us had to sleep on the sofa with her in her Moses basket for a couple of hours. Neither option was working well for us so we started putting her upstairs to bed.

Surprised at the number of people not following safer sleeping guidelines

Our dd had breathing issues early on so she's most definitely with us when she's asleep (she's nearly 5 months now). She's happy to snooze on the sofa while we're downstairs.

From a week old, we feed at 6:30 then put her to bed. She's normally asleep until we go up at 9:30ish

I should add her cot is in our room and when we take her up to bed we have a video monitor. She also has her main daytime nap upstairs in her cot and her smaller naps downstairs

We used movement monitors with our twins. They were very content in their cots, I guess when you're alone in an incubator for the first few weeks if your life you get used to it. I never cuddled my babies when they were sleeping, Nor did I let other people pick them up while they were sleeping.

It worked for us, we had two fabulous sleepers from very early on.

I'm also surprised at how early people put their babies upstairs for the evening.

I have a 2 week old currently sleeping next to me in her Moses basket, she was happily sleeping in my arms until 10 mins ago when dh changed her nappy and laid her down. Off up to bed shortly. I have no intention of having her sleep away from me until at least 6 months, very likely over a year.

She is used to sleeping in noise as we have a busy house with other children. I've done the same with them all.

I wouldn't wait to be up and down the stairs all night either as she is breastfeeding frequently and needing lots of nappy changes. Plus I love cuddling her and would miss her.

I didn't have time to miss mine. Having two newborns keeps you busy!

ineedwine you have a good sleeper! ours is still waking every fecking hour at 11months...

Ours was happy to be downstairs until about ten weeks then it became clear he wanted quiet and dark. We have a video monitor and we kept a constant eye on that.

SIDS guidelines say all naps with you until 6 mo but I was already so sleep deprived I was on the verge of collapse - I really needed to put him somewhere he'd actually sleep.

I'm also surprised at how early people put their babies upstairs for the evening.

They're all different. Ours is a lark - up at four and a nightmare past 6pm, and no amount of putting him to bed later changed that. He was getting upset in the evenings - he was much happier in a quiet room.

Neversleepagain I'm also busy with my other 5 dcs, she is my 7th

From a couple of weeks old, broke all the rules. DD2 in bed (Superking mattress on the floor) with Toddler DS but did have video monitor on and popped up regularly to check on them. Means I can spend some time with DP/DD1 and they both sleep better upstairs

Dunno but older than 5 months
For ages DD slept in the front room (her favourite place was sleeping on me, but also in a moses basket) then I took her up when I went up.

The SIDS guidelines IIRC are to do with them being able to hear you not the other way round so baby monitors don't cut it. When they can hear your breathing (even in their sleep) it helps them regulate their own breathing IIRC.

Lovelilies, you put a newborn asleep upstairs in the same bed as a toddler?! DC2 due next week but I just can't imagine doing that, would be too worried that incredibly heavy sleeper Ds1 would roll on to baby, or try to 'help' when baby woke by picking her up.

OP, please do read the Sods guidelines on safe sleeping. I read the guide when DS was born (2012) in detail and found that in a household with no other risk factors (smoking, premature baby) the risk of them sleeping alone dropped significantly after 17 weeks so this is when we started bedtime routine and DS sleeping upstairs alone.

SIDS!

We moved DS's moses basket to wherever we were (mainly the living room) and he would just go to sleep in that in the same room as us for the first 4 months (unless I wanted cuddles in which case he would sleep on me all evening). Around 4 months we started implementing a bedtime routine and he would sleep upstairs in our room with a video monitor on.

From around 8 weeks with ds we began doing an evening routine and putting him down to sleep in his moses basket in our bedroom after a bath and feed, while we stayed downstairs for a bit longer. We wanted to get our evening back by then. He still slept in our room at night till 6 months and took his daytime naps downstairs, never far from me, in his pram/ carry cot.

I know baby monitors don't help them - it's a tool for the parent.

Ds wouldn't sleep at all with us downstairs in the evenings. He'd just scream - he needed quiet and dark.

From birth - never even thought about it 'bed time' means upstairs in a bedroom to me. DS self settled and always slept really well - yes, I was very lucky. - I've never had a broken night's sleep as a parent.

DD is currently 8 weeks old and was six weeks early. She's a good sleeper at the moment but I don't plan on leaving her to sleep alone until she's at least 6 months.

Ds 2 is 16 weeks and has just started going to sleep in our room this week. We live in a flat though so our room is next door.
The whole putting them in their room from birth to get a routine thing just seems bizarre, do you think that babies who start having a bedtime later don't have a routine? We have followed DSs lead and he made his own routine (asleep by 7.30/8)

From 6 mo when she was weaned. Before that her reflux was so bad she would vomit in her sleep even and could never be left alone. We used a doo moo bean bag ( so she could be slightly tilted up) was very handy I'd sleep from 9pm dh would feed her and bring her up after last bottle so i got a few hours deep sleep without her in room.