Parenting teens and use of the PC. I've done it all, does anyone have an answer, I'm getting so worried now that it's an addiction

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I am sick of the shouting, bad language and amount of life lost on this gaming lark.
I'm waiting for the miracle cure as I've tried most suggestions. There is a point where I can cut my ds14 from all outside communication but what do i achieve from doing that other than to isolate him and make him resentful of me.

The only people they take notice of are these gaming guru's they watch supping sticky drinks and playing all night. There is zero responsibility on the part of these foul mouthed geeks broadcasting to our kids.

As I type this my nerves are jangling with hearing his gob shouting at fellow gamers which resonates around the house and the neighbours. I'm on edge! Fully expect a knock on the door soon for disturbing the peace. His dad is not understanding (absent) and doesn't understand the dilemma, well you have to live with it to suffer it!!

I have a feeling I will hear the same ideas as before and hope that I'm not alone when I say I've tried most only for DS to overcome and carry on regardless. I can only conclude that it's an addiction that he doesn't want help with. Making me ill, every time I hear the raft of expletives these gamers exchange at the highest decibels, my blood pressure is going crazy.

Here's hoping there is real hope or at the very least real concern 😫

Sorry op but you need to toughen up. You are in charge.

Thanks all, I'm going to try the laid back approach and see where it goes. Ive lost the battle and it's been a long war. Walking away and leaving the responsibility on his shoulders. no fight left 😟 Here's hoping that ignoring will work and he gets bored of it, although im not convinced as he has no other distractions. All very sad that every living thing is blocked out for a screen of games. 😞

I'm amazed by how many of the mums here would happily say of a 19 year old who was playing games and drinking fizzy drinks all day that he should get up and get a job, what a layabout, but when it's a 14 year old, the mum who brings it up is a 'grandma' for having a problem with it.

Where do you think those 19 year old (or 29 year old) layabouts come from? They come from 14 year olds who are already like this. When they were 14 their mums gave up and said, well, I guess this is what they like to do, I'll just enable it or at least not fight it too much.

Take away the smartphone. Among the more posh folks where I work and live, it's becoming more and more fashionable to only let children have "dumb" phones that can talk and text only.

Tell your son that from now on, you'll be playing games WITH him! It's now to be a fun family activity for the two of you to enjoy together, and you'll be keeping the gaming system with you when you leave the house or go to bed. Tell him you've always wanted to learn more about these games. Listen to him. Be interested. Ask him what games are coming out this year that he is looking forward to.

There's no bigger enthusiasm killer for teenagers than seeing that their parents want to do an activity, too.