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New mums/anyone who went on an antenatal class ... look over here ... would you have liked this??

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funnypeculiar · 27/01/2007 13:43

I'm involved with the local NCT, and am trying to set up a system by which

  • someone from the committee goes along to every AN class (to tell them about the branch/smile + demonstrate all committee members aren't lentil-weavers)
  • the same person would then call them 2/4 weeks after their due date to check how things were going/welcome the baby/invite mum & babe to a coffee morning.

I'm slightly concerned about the ohone calls ... would you have liked this, or wanted me to feck off? If you had a hard labour/are having a difficult time, would you expect an NCT committee member to have the answers?! Would you be unimpressed when all they could do was give sympathy & pass you on some numbers/mumsnet web address [smile}

Other thoughts, anyone???

Ta in advance....

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funnypeculiar · 27/01/2007 21:16

And on-going emails a good idea, thank you Clapham Omnibus. From all the posts, clearly I was the only one climbing out of the windows after 4 weeks of babydom

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karenj1980 · 27/01/2007 21:25

ha ha ha - fp no your not far from me at all.

well suppose i better go and spend some time with dh he he x

karenj1980 · 27/01/2007 21:28

can you go onto my profile and check photo's can you see them as i can't - shall i press something else? x

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funnypeculiar · 27/01/2007 21:31

nope, can't see any piccies...

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karenj1980 · 27/01/2007 21:36

how do i do it then.... boo! x

CricketSoph · 29/01/2007 10:12

I think its a great idea - 4 weeks after due date would be perfect and I think it should be a phone call rather than an email. i go out regularly with my NCT class but the one time i tried to go to bumps and babies, i turned up to the appointed place and there was no one else there; i've never been since and I can't imagine being brave enough to try again unless i'd had one to one contact with one of the organisers/committee people.

This is for a separate thread really but I'm a bit disappointed at my local NCT branch and contact like this would have changed my mind.

beckybrastraps · 29/01/2007 10:15

It is a nice idea, as long as they have said they would like the phone call.

I barely functioned after ds's birth, and somebody came to my house and picked me up to take me to a coffee morning. I am so grateful to her. I really needed that shove out of the door.

karenj1980 · 30/01/2007 19:16

Just thought I would say after worrying if anyone would turn up to my coffee morning, I now have 7 adults plus their kiddies confirmed for tomorrow morning yeah

Don't know where they will sit but should be cosy

Just off to Tesco/Starbucks to get some goodies - its alright I work for SB so I get a discount. Can't be serving up horrible coffee now can I ha ha.

xx

By the way if you are a NCT Volunteer/Host for coffee mornings please post here

lulumama · 30/01/2007 19:17

that is great ...not heard back re the grant yet, will let you know when i do x

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funnypeculiar · 30/01/2007 19:20

Cricketsoph - I was disapointed in the level of support the branch gave me too - it was the reason I decided to pull my finger out & join the committee in the first place - imo childbirth classes are great ... but you also REALLY need the support when buba arrives.

And what a lovely story, beckbrastraps ... good to know there are still some good samaritans out there in RL (& they're not all just on mn!)

Karenj- glad your coffee morning went well!!

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bigbird2003 · 30/01/2007 19:43

17 years ago our HV did a similar thing (not sure if it was nationwide)

She contacted 10 or so first time mums with babies born in an 6 week period that all lived in a certain area. She set up 8 weekly meets at the clinic then encouraged us to make plans for the next few weeks at peoples homes.

It was a really good experience and we are all in touch in one way or another (many of the kids are now doing A levels with each other)

I personally needed it and I think 4 weeks is good time to contact as by then you are wondering "ok, I have this baby - what do I do now!" lol

I'd say contact them all, even if it is just a 'hi how are you' as many people say one thing pregnant but once the baby is born....lots of things can change

lemonaid · 30/01/2007 20:04

Our HVs did four weeks of postnatal group/coffee for everyone with babies born in a particular calendar month (and then many of us kept it up afterwards). That started around 8-12 weeks, though (depending on when in the month your DC had been born), with them getting in touch by letter about two weeks before the start of the programme. I think that timing was about right, really.

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funnypeculiar · 30/01/2007 21:40

Thanks for those - our hvs are massively overstretched, so my understadning is that the postnatal courses/get-together are now only for a minority of people felt to particualy need them....sadly.

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feetheart · 30/01/2007 21:54

HVs here did a post-natal group thing when I had DD. It was my lifesaver as I was new to the area and knew NO-ONE. A group of us just 'clicked' and we are now about to start the round of 4th birthday parties for said babies

The NCT idea sounds great. Good luck.

karenj1980 · 01/02/2007 00:02

6 mums and 6 babies - i loved my coffee morning. It was lovely to meet some new mums and get to chat to the mum's that I go to toddler's with, without 30 other kids screaming.

Good luck with all your coffee mornings, and if you are with the NCT and haven't been to one yet, GO FOR IT x

nappyaddict · 01/02/2007 01:47

i think thats a great idea.

ProfYaffle · 01/02/2007 08:32

I think it's a really good idea. At my NCT an class they were very good at post natal support, they organised a big re-union for when all the babies were born and then facilitated a meet up for 2 or 3 weeks after that, then left us to our devices.

Our group then continued to meet at each other's houses just as a group of friends, nothing linked to NCT at all. I would imagine it's to the NCT's benefit to plug the an classes into the coffee morning network to continue to get membership fees etc.

I don't go anymore, even though the group continues to meet 3 years on. Let's just say my working class was showing

karenj1980 · 01/02/2007 08:59

i'm working class too

Fillyjonk · 01/02/2007 09:04

feck me does anyone think the NCT are lentil weavers?

I thought it was all the boots and bob cut types

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funnypeculiar · 01/02/2007 10:51

Thanks Profyaf and all ... and well, local mums certainly seem to suspect NCT of lentil weavery - I was terrified of admitting I didn't use real nappies at NCT events... until I discovered our branch chair actually worked for Pampers! Think boots & bob cuts is nearer the mark in reality..

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karenj1980 · 01/02/2007 15:49

I'm def not a lentil weaver, couldn't be further away............

Fillyjonk · 01/02/2007 19:14

yes, I'm not a lentil weaver either

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funnypeculiar · 07/03/2007 22:45

Just to say thank you to everyone who helped me out on this one - we're (finally) getting this going (just come back from a class!) and so far, so good

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