truthful comments please-am i mad wanting another baby

[sleepymumof3]

dd1 15
dd2 12

ds1 3
Live in 3 bed semi.
Work part time in good job but not well off.
Cant afford extension for 3 years.
Struggle with day to day life now with work and the committment of 3 children.
So basically have no room and not enough money and can only just manage very hectic life as it is now.
However am 36 and so very very maternal i could breastfeed a lamb !!!!
Am i mad wanting a no. 4.
Should i forget it and be happy with my 3 gorgeous healthy children while i have at least some sanity.
DH supportive either way.
Please be honest as i just cant think straight at the mo.If i have another it would have to be now as i need a hysterectomy .
And are there others who are as maternal as me-it seems everyone around me cant wait for there kids to grow up while i live for every minute with mine.

I read your story on another thread and you've been through a lot. If you and your dh want another baby, go for it

I understand where you are coming from! I too already have three daughters aged 14, 12 and 20 months but I'm still desperate for another.

Would your dd's share a room, or could the baby share with DS?

I always feel that the world is too materialistic and money isn't everything. Your children need time, attention and love far more than money ( although I understand that it does rear it's ugly head at times...like school uniform time, holidays etc)

Are you absolutely sure that the thought of your hysterectomy is not affecting your thinking at all? After all it's a huge thing to think about losing the ability to have a baby...sorry if that offends you = just thought it might have some relevance...?

Hiya, I would love more kids so know how you feel, I have 3 girls, but my youngest is only 6 months. So maybe not yet.

If having another baby is what you truely want and your dh is happy, then go for it.

If we all made lists of why now is not the right time to have a baby, then I dont think anyone would ever have kids. I dont think there is ever a perfect time.

I am sure you are a great mother now and still would be with another one.

Take the plunge and go for it!

I think it would be hard but I don't think you'd regret it, still, that is mho

Well, the technicalities always have ways of sorting themselves out don't they....

If it is what you want...go for it

Gosh i dont know why but i didnt expect so many positive responses . Yes i do think the hysterectomy has thrown me into a bit of a panic but i would love another one. Perhaps ill get my mirena out and just see what happens-prob nought with 3 already-no time

Go for it but I'm troubled by the "Struggle with day to day life now with work and the committment of 3 children." and also the "can only just manage very hectic life as it is now" line. Aren't you answering your own question really?

Listen, none of my business, do what you want to do and good luck to you whatever you decide.

Do you think you'll massively regret NOT going for it?