Controlled crying 10MO your thoughts please??

[mumto1babyboy]

I've been told by my Health visitor to try controlled crying with my LO who is 10months old , he's never liked sleeping on his own bless his heart, but she feels he's old enough now to try the controlled crying method. Your thoughts and experiences would be soooooo appreciated right now

I wouldn't (and didn't) do it. My 2 year old now falls asleep on his own and sleep all night after months of being cuddled, patted, sung to sleep when he was tiny. IMO, teaching your child that when they cry, no one comes to soothe them is cruel. Google some studies before you decide to go down that route - there are some recent ones about cortisol (stress hormone) levels that make alarming reading. 10 months is still very young. My DS didn't start sleeping through consistently until he was over 14 months. Unfortunately the best thing to adjust is probably just your expectations. Good luck - sleep deprivation is truly shitty but it WILL pass.

My DS was a horrendous sleeper and by the time he was 9 months I was exhausted and in a very bad place. I was on my knees. He wouldn't self settle, he'd be awake for hours and hours in the middle of the night, he wouldn't feed unless fed to sleep and we had other issues too. It was unbearable. He didn't nap in the day either.

My return to work date was approaching and I was only getting 4-5 hours sleep a night, and broken sleep at that, and I knew something had to be done.

Under the guidance/advice of a Sleep Consultant I did CC and within 4-5 nights I had a baby that self settled, slept from 8pm-6pm in his cot and also had a two hour nap each afternoon.

The first night took about 50 minutes for him to go to sleep and over the subsequent nights the time frames got shorter until eventually he went to sleep with no protesting at all.

There are 4 factors that I believe led to the success of the CC:

1. Moving him into his own room
2. Complete overhaul of his bedtime routine.
3. Night weaning
4. Seeing it through.

Sorry for all the typos. I meant to say he only used to sleep if I fed him to sleep and following CC he slept from 8pm-6am not PM. I definitely didn't have a baby that slept for 22 hours

I've been at breaking point and did a lot of research. If I'm totally honest, I am pretty sure my baby would be the one still crying two hours later having made herself sick etc. It's not for me. She has learned to do everything else in her own time. It's another developmental thing I think. I don't have the stomach for it. I'm not a great sleeper myself and can't imagine how it feels to need help and be ignored.