what to do with ds in the evenings???

[issasmum]

hello mums and dads.....im new at this so can u please tell me where i can take my son in the evenings. he doesnt like being indoors and its not like we haveto go outeveryday but we both need to be doing something for our sanity.

What time in the evenings are you talking about? Most children get their dinner, bath & chill out in the evenings

What age is your son? Maybe it would be easier if we knew his age

and the sort of area you live eg town, village, coastal? money available or do you want free stuff..?? what do you like/dislike doing...also the same for your ds? give us a clue...and we will help you!!!(hopefully)

no i dont mind paying but then i pay for tumble tots, who run their classes only during daytime...i live in edmonton, enfield, london. ..in summer there is more daylight so i could take him to the park after his nap in the afternoon but these days by the time he is up from his nap its pitch dark outside and no way am i going to the park to risk anything. our local leisure centre just shut down till april and since my husband doesnt come home till 9pm ds doesnt go to bed till 10pm. i thought if i could wake him up earlier we could make good use of the daylight and then get him off to bed early. but this idea is still being worked on ...ill see what happens>>>thanks for replying though

my ds is 16 mnths and ur right he could chill out but ur right ...my parenting has some flaws and righting my problems down gave me a chance to reflect....i have to wake him up by 7am and get him out and about and the get him ready for bed by7-8pm. the only problem with this is that my husband and i like to spend time alone in the evenings after the kids have gone to sleep, maybe watch a few episodes of "family guy". and i find myself sleeping thru till 9am the next day...do u see where im going...i need to reduce the number of hours i sleep but pls let me know ur thoughts and how u guys work time alone for urself from the time with ur kids.

issamum - is the reason your son goes to bed so late so that his dad can see him?
My two go to bed at 7/7.30, giving me and DH time together.

My kids get up anytime from 7am onwards. I take dd to school. Ds & I come home & tidy up. We play a little, read a bit, maybe watch some tv. Then ds goes down for a nap about 11.30. He sleeps for about 2 hours. Gets his lunch then we pick up dd. We do dd's homework, they have some tv whilst I prepare dinner, the eat, chill & be in bed by 7pm. Leaving me & dh to have time to ourselves!

10pm seems awful late for a 16month old baby to still be out of bed, does he have daytime nap at all? I understand your dh needs to see him too, but can you compromise?

i agree with FF...need to compremise...how does dh feel about it and how its making you feel

dearest hubbyzand very well knows what time his dear son goes to bed but he doesnt say much because we both come from a culture where kids dont really go to bed early...there is no set rule on sleeping time...we didnt nap or go to bed early....ds naps for roughly two hours in the afternoon. u are right he could go to bed early and leave me and dh alone but then ds ends up waking when his dad comes or after that....and i guess he does that cause he knows his dad will play with him and swing him around like a monkey. bless him he loves his dad so much and because he knows his dad will play with him once he gets home. he lets me off by being nice to me thru the day...sometimes. ill work on waking him early around 7am it might work and eventually hell stop waking up in the night.

[hijack] Firefly your daily routine is exactly the same as it is in the choccy house!

My daily routine goes as follows(I have ds who is 7,dd1 who is 4,almost 5,and dd2 who is 2,almost 3)
I get the kids up at 7am,get them dressed and have breakfast.then have a wash.Then they play until 8:40 when we leave for school
9am-ds and dd1 go into school
9-12-depending on the day me and dd2 go d some shoppinng(monday mornings) swimming(tues) music group(thurs) or meet friends/play at home(wed and fri)
12-is lunchtime,we usually have this at home
1-2:30-dd2 has her nap(she sleeps for about an hour of this time,the rest she plays)
2:45-go to collect older kids.ds has judo on a weds,dd1 has ballet on a monday.They both have music class on a thurs.The rest of the time we come home.Judo goes from 3:30-4:30,ballet from 4-5,and music 3-4.
3:30-on home days,they play in back garden,or we go to park.
4:30(except on mondays.) they do homework.
5pm-the kids watch t.v whileI prep dinner.
5:30-dinnertime.
6:15-upstairs for bathtime
6:40-out of bath.get dressed,drink of milk and clean teeth.
6:50-read stories.
7pm-lights out for dd2 and she is asleep immediately
7-7:15-dd1 and ds get to 'read' by themselves in their room.
7:15-lights out for dd1 and ds.They are always asleep by 7:30 at the latest.

When the days get lighter i get the kids to do homework before they do anything else,and they usually play out right until dinner is ready so have not t.v time.But in the winter they play first,then do homework and then t.v