2 children.

[PirateFairy45]

After the birth of my daughter and my extensive mental health issues afterwards, myself and DP decided it's probably best we just have DD. That we don't have any more children.

I agreed as I feel it's what's best.

But DP is now saying he wants another baby. But I'm not sure.

I'd love another but don't know if I'd cope mentally. DD is 3.5 and I still have bad days now. Not as many in the last 12 days but I think that's down to new meds I'm on.

I just want someone to talk to as he's biased. Tried talking to my mum but she's worried about me getting pregnant (was very ill throughout pregnancy that ended in emergency section where both DD and I nearly died)

I'm in a similar position but DD is only 9 months. I've suffered from depression for over 10 years but I've found myself struggling more because of a lack of sleep. I always wanted children & used to dream of a big family but since DD has come along I'm scared to think how I'd cope with any more. DH is lovely, he says he'd like more but it's up to me as I'd be the main carer due to his job. It makes me sad and really frustrated with myself that I can't 'cope'. Sorry, this probably is t the reply you were looking for but I'm glad I'm not the only one who's conflicted. Feel free to whinge back at me

As someone who had a dc2 and wanted to, I'd say don't do it unless you actually want to.

It's hard work. I'm exhausted!

Agree with napqueen!

There is 10.5 years between my DDs and I still find it very hard! And DD2 was very much wanted.

Take your time making the decision. Do what's best for the whole family.

I agree to have to really want it. Even the pregnancy is much, much harder. I realised pretty much as soon as I'd fallen pregnant with DC2 it was going to effect my MH again and it has.