How do I ask MIL not to post photos on Facebook?!

[MediaMum1224]

My MIL regularly takes photos of my 8 month old DD and puts them on her Facebook page without asking me. This bothers me because her profile isn't private and I would like to have (as far as possible) control over who sees images of my baby - I just think it's common sense/etiquette to ask someone if you can post their child's photo on the Internet? I only post photos on my Facebook into a private family album with a restricted audience list. Anyway, how do I ask her politely not to post pictures on her FB?! She's oddly sensitive about a lot of stuff and I don't want her to think I'm being overly dramatic or nagging. Also don't want her to think I'm being a spoilsport, as I understand she's just doing it to brag about her granddaughter. Any good tactics or advice?

"Hey MIL, I'm only posting photos of DD on my Facebook into a private family album with a restricted audience, if you're going to post photos of DD on FB could you do the same please, thanks!".

Nice, to the point, I like it! I need to stop being such a wuss.

You don't, it needs to come from your DH. He needs to tell her to either stop posting the photos or change her privacy settings to match yours.

Just explain simply as you have done here and say you would be happy to show her how to put the privacy/security settings on - she perhaps doesn't realise it goes to everyone otherwise. My mum is hopeless with FB, on the plus side she wouldn't even know how to put a photo on.

I think you are over reacting - you're not a celebrity, you kid isn't Jesus - NO ONE CARES about the photos except for your

User pictures get stolen and used in all sorts of ways so she's not overreacting tbh.

I'd assume that she doesn't know how to change her privacy settings so I'd ask if she knows how and go from there.

I'd ask her if she knows her profile isn't private first. I bet she doesn't. Then explain that you're not comfortable with photos of your DD being put on an open profile. It might be awkward but it's up to you how much 'exposure' she has on the Internet, until she is of an age to do so herself. You're doing the right thing by protecting her.