this might seem a bit of a stupid question but

[SurvivingTheTerrbileTwos]

am i causng myself more work in the long run by letting my DS (nearly 3) sleep in my bed with me? (Am single parent) He will sleep in his own big boy bed some nights and other nights he crawls in with me. Should i bar him from my bed or just continue on as we are? My family seem to think i should be barricading him in his own room at night till morning but i really don't see what harm it does? Am i being stupid?

I think it's only a problem if you don't like it, iyswim. If it's working for both of you, go with the flow.

If, on the other hand, you think you might at some point want him to sleep only in his bed, maybe you might want to start nudging him in that direction (although I'm not sure how, star charts?).

DS was 3 in November and some nights he will come in with us, some nights he doesn't. If either DH or I can summon up the energy then he is put back in his bed, but I don't feel there's any problem with him being there sometimes.

Sometimes DD (16 months) ends up in our bed as well. As she is more likely to kick, this happens less often (I value my sleep too much ).

I agree with JackieNo, if you're both happy and get a good night's sleep, there's no problem.
Families can be great at advice, but do what you think is best for you and your son.

I agree - only a problem if you or he doesn't like it/want it/can't sleep as a result of it.

DD is nearly 5 and still gets into our bed part way through the night sometimes. I know at least two of her school friends who are the same.

It's only a problem if it's a problem for you. we co slept with both of ours when they were very little. Then we started putting them to be in their own beds and they would come in to us if they woke in the night. This gradually tailed off without us doing anything about it. For us, the important thing was that they started the night in their own beds. This gave them the idea that their own bed was a nice place to be, and gave dp and me a bit of time together. They both learnt how to sneak into our bed hardly waking us up at all - I have to say I miss it now, and love the very occasional time one or both of them comes in!

Thanks for the advice on this one. See if the truth be known i kinda like having him in the bed with me - even if he does sleep at right angles to my body so i usually find his head or feet in my back mid-way through the night!

I love waking up in the morning and seeing his wee face totally out of it in dreamland but still smiling!

TT

STT - our little boy (who was 3 in September) had a phase of getting up in the night and coming into bed with us every single night. It has lasted about 5 months (infact, since we went on holiday last year and he obviously wasn't used to his room). Since he is very good and goes straight off to sleep, I have no problem with this. The sad thing is he's lately stopped doing it, entirely of his own accord. I've only seen him once in the night in about the last 3 weeks. And I really miss it . So, I'd say don't worry. It won't last for ever, make the most of it if you enjoy it!

i think your doing it for you rather than him.

i think you should get him trained to sleep in his own bed before full time school starts.

besides - you may actually want to have a shag sometime in the future

custardo

shag? my god what's that?

you're right it is MORE for ME than him

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