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Complete regression in almost 3 year old

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JoshandJamie · 21/01/2007 19:10

My son turns 3 next month. He has been potty trained since he was about 2 and 4 months. He's consistently had accidents - sometimes because he's too busy playing but often he just can't get there fast enough or can't get his trousers down.

But in the last few weeks, he seems to have regressed completely. He now just wets himself wherever he's sitting and says: I've wet my trousers. He makes no effort to go to the loo at all. Today he even did a poo at a friends house on the floor! And he's never done that - even when we were potty training

I can't figure out why. There haven't been any significant changes in his life - he's had bigger changes since being potty trained like moving house without much effect. The only new thing is that he's gone for two training sessions at his preschool but it's part of the same nursery that he goes to so it's not an unfamiliar environment.

Is this normal? How do I handle it? With potty training you're supposed to never reprimand, just clear up and move on. But I'm not sure if I should be taking as passive a stance with this.

I've tried talking to him about it, asking him why he didn't say he wanted to go, tried saying that he'll have to go back to nappies if he can't go to the loo (as he really enjoys his big boy status so I thought this might be incentive), but he just says he wants to go back to nappies.

I'm not going to put him back in nappies because I think he will just go right back to square one. Any advice appreciated.

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Pitchounette · 21/01/2007 19:59

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JoshandJamie · 21/01/2007 20:39

Thanks Pitchou - will give that a try. i do think that while I've been calm and not shouting, I've been trying to explain to him too much as to why it's wrong which he probably still perceives as getting attention which he then duly ignores. So will adopt the ignore the wet patch approach and see what comes of it.

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JoshandJamie · 22/01/2007 20:35

Oh please help!!! It's getting worse. Today he went to nursery and apparently was fine all day. No accidents. I said: well done, that was really clever and he said he deserved a sticker, and I agreed.

Well he gets home and we're not even back for 30 mins and I notice a wet patch on his trousers. Bearing in mind the advice not to say anything, I simply ask: Do you need to go to the toilet?

And he says yes and starts to pull his pants down - and he's done a massive, wet poo in his underpants. He have NEVER ever done that before.

I just don't get it. I took him to the loo and didn't say a thing, just took his trousers off and let him carry on his business. But I then said: we need to go have a bath because you have poo all down your legs. And he went into meltdown and the meltdown continued all through bath and bedtime.

But he literally had to have a bath as there was poo everywhere.

His little brother has been sick recently and therefore getting a lot of attention so all i can put this down to is attention seeking - but I was giving him loads of positive attention and he went ahead and did it anyway.

What do I do???

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Pitchounette · 23/01/2007 09:17

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madamez · 23/01/2007 09:47

Is it possible that he could have a stomach upset/urinary infection? Sometimes this can upset a kid's control.

Pitchounette · 23/01/2007 15:33

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JoshandJamie · 23/01/2007 17:51

Thanks for that. I don't think it's an infection because he only behaves like this at home so am sure it's attention seeking. But so far today we've had one wee and one poo accident and that was it. So am hoping he's starting to get over it.

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