If your children want to play or be friends with children whose parents views you disagree with do you let them still be friends?

[bakedbeans]

How do you deal with it? DO you tell the other child's parents that you strongly disagree with their point of view? Do try to stop your child being friends with the other child? Or do you think that what the parents believe and have as their point of view is their business and let the children be friends with whoever they like? Does it make any difference how old the children are? DO you think it reflects on your family if your child is friends with a family that have unpopular viewpoints?

What sorts of points of view are you taking about?

If it regards issues of child safety/supervision then I wouldn't be happy if my child was left in their company. I would not allow that to happen.

I wouldn't have problems if someones political views were different to mine, as long as they fell withing a reasonable spectrum. I don't think I would be happy if my child was in the company of people who were racists.

if people would think that way, then no one would be friends with my DD as i have very strong and different views from other parents.

my friend;s little girl used to play regularly with another child, and the mum and dad used to take them to other places, like play places, until she found out there were 7 people in the car at one time, and the no-one wore a seat belt after that, she made various reasons and excuses for them not to have play dates...

re unpopular viewpoints...i agree with MB... i certainly would not want a group of friends where we agree on everything politically and socially, but would not want to socialise with racists or bigots of any kind..

Like what?

I would not let my child play in an enviroment where racism was a 'natural' part of everyday life.

It would depend of what views they held really. I don't expect everyone to think exactly as I do as that's unrealistic but if they were for instance openly racist I wouldn't want my children to visit their home perhaps.

I'm sitting on the fence about the racist one... I would like to think that the way I bring my children up would mean they realise what is and isn't acceptable. If I heard any racist cr*p coming out of their mouths I would put them right and explain why it is wrong and hope that they would then take the Other Family to task over their beliefs in a way which would be rather more inflammatory if an adult did it!

I would be more concerned about things which are a health risk like smoking near them or plain dangerous stuff like car safety.

What "unpopular viewpoints" are you referring to?
I try not to interfere with my children's friendships.
However if the parents of their friends were expressing views that I found unacceptable - racist or sexist, or swearing or smoking in front of the children, for example - I would intervene.

Completely depends on what the subject is

i must admit when reading the OP i hadn't even considered extreme views like racism. i don't know how i would deal with that.

I would not let any of my kids play anywhere unsafe or go with anyone unsafe {seatbelts in cars} or peadophiles etc. Well I wondered because of Jade's 2 little boys who are 3 and 2 years old, if your children were friends with them would you still let them play together or would you stop them coming round because of what you thought of Jade. I think it would be very unfair on her little boys if the children they are friends with were stopped from playing with them. Some of the people on here have been horrible to Jade these last few days and I wondered after seeing her on BBLB if you would take revenge on the children as so many people here think she is evil.

Sorry I should have explained it better in OP I was talking to DH at same time and so wasn't thinking straight, should have read it through before clicking POST

Blimey. Tbh it makes me feel pretty sickened all this mass hate against one person. I wouldnt be surprised if next weeks headlines were that she had taken her own life. Very unfair. So many people have far worse views than hers.

I would have no problem with my kids socialising with hers.

I would let them still play with my kids, without a problem. Safety of my kids would be the main worry.

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btw I mean saftey as in car safety or peadophiles

I totally agree

Jade's little boys dont get to see much of their mum. It seems to be insanely cruel to go on Big Brother if you have two small children.

I hope they are being brought up by someone more sensible.

Would I let my son play with these kids. Well it would depend on what THEY were like as individuals. It seems unfair to damm a kid just because they are unfortunate enough to have Jade as their mum.

If I strongly disagreed with a parents' views on life, I would almost definitely disagree on their approach to parenting. IME the two things are linked.

This is not a judgement against Jade. I have no imformed views on her as I avoid watching Big Brother.