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Another potty training and poos thread (slightly different)

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belgianmama · 18/01/2007 14:53

My dd is being potty trained and has been doing really well. The last few days she's even been asking for the toilet and has only had a handful of accidents.
However she will not go for a poo. She wont go on the potty, nor in a nappy or her pants. Resulting in regular bouts of constipation. This week even went to the doctor and got a glycering suppository which worked brilliantly. But she hasn't gone since again and is clearly holding it causing her to be on the road to be constipated yet again. I was wondering if anyone has had the same experience and if so, how it was sorted?

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Elasticwoman · 19/01/2007 07:49

If you increase the fibre and fluids in her diet she just won't be able to hang on to it.
Also, with my dd1 I found it was a case of getting her to sit on the loo/potty for long enough. I used to juggle or read her books.

rebeccalm · 19/01/2007 08:19

Have a similar problem. DS can control his bladder perfectly but gets really upset about doing a poo. Will only do it in a nappy or in pants if he's wearing them. Also, he won't use a potty or toilet anywhere else. One day at nursery he held on to his wee from 9 until 3. Have treied taking his potty but he still won't. Any advice? I hate seeing him get upset so we've just stepped back and put him in nappies. (He's 2 and a half and I also have a 12 week old)

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belgianmama · 19/01/2007 19:32

Well, she's done the poo now, but on the ap's bed! [snigger snigger, happy it wasn't mine!] Still she asks for the toilet for a wee no probs, but poos seem to be such a problem. I really think its a problem that's in her head rather than a physical one. From the reactions it seems to be a problem that's baffling people.

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rebeccalm · 19/01/2007 22:31

Amazingly enough, today has been a breakthrough. He did a poo on the toilet!! (not something I ever believed I'd feel the need to post on the internet ) We had just totally stepped back and put him in nappies with no mention of pooing. We then did stickers and praise every time he did one, regardless of where. Today he said he wanted to wear pants (I've started giving him the choice) then said he needed a wee but had already started to poo so I just very casually put him on the toilet where he finished the job. We,of course, went nuts and he was very pleased with himself. This afternoon he used a public toilet at the park without batting an eyelid. Everyone told me he would do it when he was ready but it's really hard to believe. I can only advise you to step back totally and she will do it. Also, reward EVERY poo so she starts seeing it as a positive thing. Sorry if that sounds wishy washy but I honestly felt with ds that I had been letting him lead but I think he was picking up on my tension. Just resign yourself to binning a few pairs of pants! Good luck.

calmontheoutside · 19/01/2007 22:51

My DD (2 years) is the same, so no advice here. Will be watching this thread though. She took to peeing in the potty within days, but has refused to poo. She finally did one on the floor, held the next in for three days, nappy not potty, held the next in for three days...
Until the potty training she pooed every day happily. She drinks five full cups of water/tea/milk each day and eats three tangerines and one small banana each day/ or the equivalent, so fibre intake is the same as it always has been. It seems to have become a problem, even though we didn't react to the poo on the floor in a negative way.
Yesterday in order to get her past the potty refusal I sat her on the potty when it was clear that she wanted to 'go'. In the end she did do one on the potty, amidst tears, which I hated, although she was pleased afterwards and fascinated. Today however, she went straight to it and pooed with no problem.
We'll wait and see what happens tomorrow. I think some little things can so easily become quite big things in their minds with very little prompting.

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belgianmama · 19/01/2007 23:39

Yes, well at least she went from an 8 day to a 3 day gap before she did one. It can only get better. I have already naturally started to take a step back in the pooing bit and for now I think I'll be happy for her just to do one, wether its in her pants (last week), on the floor (mon) or on the ap's bed [still sniggering]. At least I'll know she's not constipated and after a few accidents she might just decide that the toilet is better after all.

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calmontheoutside · 21/01/2007 08:16

After putting her on the potty, WHEN WE KNEW that she was 100% definitely needing to go (running around, crying, shouting 'Hot-bum' 'Mummy/Daddy put the nappy on'...) she has gone herself a few times with less shouting, and then no shouting.
I would never force a child to do something like that - but we know our DD, and knew that she'd got this ante poo in potty thing into her head, and we didn't want it to become more serious.
I think if we had backed down, at that moment, because she was crying, then it would have hindered the whole situation. I have to say again, that we were absolutely sure from her prelude-to-poo behaviour that she was going to have to do one...
Fear of using the potty for poo is over.

noonar · 21/01/2007 08:40

well, my dd is 2.5 and has been out of nappies for 2 weeks. she too was afraid to poo on the potty or loo. she too was holding it in. then suddenly, she went for a big poo on the loo at a restaurant and has been fine about it since! now, she actually had a slight tummy upset so was unable to hold it in. so i was wondering if a mild laxative eg syrup of figs, might help you others with a similar problem. if they cant hold it in, and there's less solid poo to pass, it could help to lessen the ordeal.

noonar · 21/01/2007 08:43

ps i always let her poo in her pants/ nappy before now, as i know from exp with dd1, that they can develop big emotional/ physical probs from holding it in. my attitude was 'i dont care where she does it, as long as its out'. so never try to frcibly put your LO on the potty or get annoyed if they poo on floor etc. (am sure you wouldnt, anyway!)

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belgianmama · 23/01/2007 21:27

That's what my attitude has become now and steadily over the last few days she's started to sort herself out. She's been every day the last 2 days. Both times in her pants though. She doesn't show any signs though of having to go. She just says kaka (which is a bit like poopoo) and that's usually the sign that the deed has been done and waiting for us in her pants! Hopefully in time she'll learn that having poo in her pants is not all that comfortable and then she'll start asking for the potty beforehand. I just hope that time wont take too long.
Wish all of you potty trainers out there lots and lots of success

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