What would happen??

[Loobie]

What would happen if i went to to my HV and told her i was seriously thinking of driving the car off a bridge with myself and the 3 kids in it? Would she immediatly want to take them away from me?
I suffer from depression have done on and off since ds1 was born 11 years ago,am on a double odse of anti-d's which dont seem to be making any difference.DS1 has severe autism and dd is showing traits with a sleep disorder and speech disorder too,i have NO family support whatsoever ihave 2 close friends who are both going througf major life upheavels at the moment,i am a single parent the kids dad is 300 miles away but aware of the whole situation but says theres nothign he can do.So i basically have absolutely no one to turn to,the only thing stopping me doing anything is the fact there is no one for my kids so the only other thing i can do is take them with me,but if i go to he hv to say this will she take my kids away??

she would not automatically take them from you but if she was a decent HV then she immeadiately finds ways to help you.

No she should be able to talk to you about why you are feeling like this and try to help you.

Have you got Home Sart in your area? Do you get on with your HV? Could you go and talk to her?

You clearly need some support Loobie and it should be there for you but I think you're gonna have to ask for it.

Loobie, you need and deserve help, but as pp said you have to ask for it.

Please contact your hv or gp and let them know how you are feeling. I really, really don't think you will lose your kids. Hopefully someone else will be along who can set your mind at rest about this.

sorry you are feeling so bad loobie, call your health visitor while the older ones are at school and ask for help. Like Mcdreamy says you may have homestart in your area or a similar support scheme which could really help. Are you in touch with a local autism support group?
Asking for help is hard but it will be worth it. Social services only take children away as a last resort if nothing can be done to support them in their family unit (you)! Also go back to your gp and see if there is anything else that can be done regarding your depression - you must be exhausted looking after 3 kids alone, and being sleep deprived won't help. Sending you a hug, make the calls today honey I am thinking of you.

How are you feeling today loobie?

Thank you kay for asking i spent yesterday with a friend and was able to talk a bit ,feel slightly better today but will try to see HV today and let her know,she is booked to come to the house on tuesday anyway to go over dd review so if i dont get her today will defo see her tuesday.I also posted here as its a more appropriate sectionjust never realised iut was there before i posted here.I will keep the other one updated how i get on too.