Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Parenting

For free parenting resources please check out the Early Years Alliance's Family Corner.

Flip

Original poster

9 yr old wants to go out

10 replies

ticklemepink · 17/01/2007 12:55

am unsure when to let my dd 9yrs out to play. am a bit over the top about safety and she asks to walk to school which is just round the corner but has to cross the road which for and adult is dangerous as cars round schools are really bad. on top of that she wants to play out the front. again not sure about this as who knows what can happen. i feel really overprotective and cant seem to let her do it. help!

OP posts:

Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

brightwell · 17/01/2007 13:04

I let my 9 yr old ds play out, as long as i know where he is. he's only allowed to play round the corner. We live in a cul de sac, on a fairly quite estate. He's the youngest of 2 and he gets to do more at his age then the older one did. Giving your lo's freedom is a big step, you know her best. My ds is keen to go to play at the park which isn't too far but I'm concerned about there being older children there, and he's easily distracted.

Original poster

ticklemepink · 17/01/2007 14:05

yes, she does seem quite young for her age compared to other friends girls of the same age. dd also wants to go to park in the better weather. will probably start with in our close firsst and i guess i wil just have to be brave and trust her to follow my rules.

OP posts:

UCM · 17/01/2007 14:07

Nothing to add but don't envy you, I am dreading mine asking to go out.

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about these subjects:

Families General parenting

Original poster

ticklemepink · 17/01/2007 14:12

how old is urs UCM?

OP posts:

Original poster

ticklemepink · 17/01/2007 14:13

i also have a ds who is in his teens now so have done this before...cant understand my reluctance to let dd out now???

OP posts:

Original poster

ticklemepink · 21/01/2007 07:59

anyone else got any views on this...spring is approaching fast

OP posts:

hercules1 · 21/01/2007 09:27

Personally I dont let ds (11) out to play. It depends so much on where you live. Our area isnt suitable.

It also drives me mad when other peoples kids are out on the street unsupervised.

katelyle · 21/01/2007 09:47

Ok, here's what I think. If you live in a street where there aren't many cars, and where other children play, then your dd should go out as well. I think it's really important that children have as much freedom and independence as possible as early as possible. If your street isn't safe because of traffic, then does she have a friend who lives in a more suitable area that she can visit? We live near a small market town (with a car free high street) and from the age of about 9, my dd and a friend were allowed to go round the shops for half an hour while I sat in cafe and waited for them. My dd, now 11, is now allowed to go out on her bike with a friend and a picnic. BUT, she has to be back at a set time, and she takes a phone with her.

frenchleave · 21/01/2007 09:55

My 9-year-old is allowed to walk to her friend's house (in the next road) and play out the front within sight of the house. We have a big gravelled area in front of our gate so they play there. We have recently allowed her to walk with a friend to the village shops to buy sweets in daylight too.

We live in a big but quiet village with lots of footpaths and safe road crossings, and my DD is generally reliable and responsible. It depends on the area where you live and how sensible you think she is.

I can understand your reluctance, it's different with girls.

Original poster

ticklemepink · 21/01/2007 20:46

yes it sure is...thanks for that though

OP posts:

Flip