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how to not lose YOURSELF when you're a mama

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wildlingtribe · 31/05/2016 22:39

How do you do this?

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Andcake · 04/06/2016 07:38

Work, reading, getting smart for work, getting up early to run, taking time at lunchtime to be m. But dp is a sahd and I work so my life may have changed less...

DumbDailyMail · 04/06/2016 07:48

With four kids 5 and under I'd say it was a lost cause Wink Just be patient and wait a few years and don't have more kids. You obviously didn't mind being a 'Mama'. (Envy) to want four kids so quickly and so young.

Have you got qualifications? How about open university? Do you work? (I'm guessing not!)
What were you doing before kids?

wildlingtribe · 04/06/2016 09:30

I actually WFH with my website & photography. Slow at the moment with the newborn though Grin

I do need to get out and do things, it's just confidence, needing to take one step at a time without feeling anxious or lost I guess.

It doesn't help that my friends have somewhat gone very quiet the past year or so when we would usually see eachother every week. (They only have one or two kids that are bigger now)

Breastfeeding has been tough again this time despite persevering until 18 months three times, and she feeds lots at the minute... So time away from her seems far fetched. I don't want to wish it away as she is our last but I am going to start a yoga class one Eve a week but may break myself in by doing a at home DVD first.

I have a work conference coming up in three weeks where I'll need to take baby and I'm anxious about that! Traveling alone to London with newborn.. I asked dp to come with me as he could maybe take the baby off for a few hours if I can express so I can concentrate more (but baby's are welcome to this event anyway so that's lucky!) I just feel like I'm never going to be confident doing my own thing.

When I was younger I never had confidence but when I was on my own I would be happiest sometimes. Like shopping, or something.

Now I do like the idea but even if I nip to the local shop to get bread for example I am feeling lost, and itching to get back.

Maybe it's my anxiousness from youth playing part, I have no clue but I want to not feel so xrap about myself!

Things like clothing too, I have no confidence in what I wear, I'm lucky to still be my same size post pregnancy but with my extremes tummy split it shows against my skin frame. So I just lack confidence in all aspects really. Then lost motivation to even attempt it.

Motivation is the key here too and it's what I'm lacking.

Friendship is hard, as a few friends have been disloyal so I just feel like I am living for my kids, and not me. I mean they are my world and I would lay down my life for them of course but I need a purpose for myself too. I am creative but don't get time to be creative, I want to strive more with my business and design something new, I just lack time and effort at the moment.

And to top it off, my hair is a year and a half over due to be cut and coloured and it's a mane at the moment lol again, I just think 1. Why go to a salon and pay a huge price when I can box dye myself 2. I don't know how to have it next.

Woah ramble! Can you tell I don't get out much? Excuse the joke Wink

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