To want to kiss and hug child in the morning before I go?

[Jasperkiss5]

Is it reasonable to want to be able to have 30 seconds say, to kiss my son good bye and tell him I love him and will see him soon without the person who is looking after him for the day standing there open armed the entire time?

I leave DS with mil 1 day a week, I don't like doing it but have to to keep peace with husband. I don't get on great with mil for various reasons, largely that she was very patronising and undermining with me regarding my son and ignored very basic requests of mine. She's taken first grandchild to the extreme and comes across quite possessive over my son.

Anyway the mornings I drop him off to her, whilst I'm unloading his stuff, she is talking to DS the whole time. We barely speak but I feel when we do it's because I ask her how her weekend was or something like that, otherwise she would Just never ask. It saves the awkward silences. So once I've unloaded she will say 'right mummy's got to go, let's say bye'. Without letting me kiss and cuddle him bye. Bearing in mind she knows it'll be 10
Hours before I get to see him again. Bearing in mind, my son is at no sort of clingy stage at all so when I go he doesn't get upset at the moment, as he's content with her, so that isn't her reason. I get to here 20 minutes before I start work and my work is 3 minutes up the road in the town, with no traffic at that time. But no, as soon as I'm in the door she cannot wait to get me out.

So I've been having to say come to mummy for s kiss and taking him for a few seconds for a hug. The first couple of times, no lie, she stood there open armed smiling at him while I gave him a cuddle. Her arms must have ached she held them out for that long. I felt pressured to just pass him back. So the next time I walked into her kitchen with him
And stood by the mirror pulling faces and making him chuckle while I said bye and she followed me right up to the mirror and stood within a cm of us cooing at my son saying 'nannys boy you are', again open armed.

Is it me? Or could she just fuck off for 20 seconds and be normal and let me say bye to him? Or is me saying bye to him over the top or something? I just feel I want to kiss and cuddle him before I go that's all.

Thanks to some of the responses, Pea thank you.

I have a gut feeling she's trying to be a bitch. While she's not 'physically stopping me' from saying goodbye, equally telling me I have to go almost straight away, but saying it through my son is just really dismissive. When I do give him a hug, standing there with her arms open wide, is obviously very pressuring, and odd. When I walk across the room and I'm followed with her standing right next to me in my personal space, telling my son he's 'nannys' is also very irritating.

I can't say my byes in the car because she sits in the kitchen looking at so sees me pull up and she's out the front door at his side of the car before I can get my foot out.

I can't say my byes in the car because she sits in the kitchen looking at so sees me pull up and she's out the front door at his side of the car before I can get my foot out.

Keep the car doors locked and say a long goodbye while she stands fuming outside.