Can you make a Child potty train if you persist?

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Is it possible to make a child potty train or should you wait for signs that they are ready? I ask through desperation. Ds is 19 months he absolutely hates nappy changes and so do I as they are so much of a struggle. He loves running round nappyless and I'm happy to let him. He will sit on his potty and clap himself, but as yet has done nothing in it. However he rarely has any accidents because he can seem to hold his wee in for hours and then as soon as I put a nappy on him he will wee straight away which kind of makes me think he can control it. I feel that if he could just do one wee on the potty he would pick it up really quickly. Me and dp let him watch us go to the toilet so he gets the idea.Is it possible to get a child to potty train when you want to, or will they only be sucessful at it if they are ready. I don't mind accidents on the floor and I have a lot of patience, but am I wasting my time?

I don't think it is possible to make a child potty train. But i think you are doing all the right things to enable your son to become 'trained' when he is ready, if that makes sense!

Continue as you are and it will click eventually. Just be careful to not to try and 'persuade' to much as the novelty may wear off and he could rebel.

I did as you are with my dd and she was trained by 2 but only when naked waist down. If she wore clothes she felt it was a nappy and would always wet them. It took another couple of weeks of accidents before she mastered wearing clothes again! . After that she was fine all the time, only ever having one public embarrassment.

Now night time training ..... thats a different story .

I think if he is resistant to nappy changes he will be resistant to the potty as well. You will be cleaning up wee and poo for a long time. It is not so much the weeing on the floor it is the weeing in the armchair or on the bed or right through the pushchair on top of the shopping or in the carseat that is the work. You can only give it a try and see.

I assume you are putting him in nappies when you are out? I did with dd, it was only when she was playing around at home that she'd be without nappy, until she'd mastered getting most of her wees in the potty. I kept the potty in whichever room she was playing in, and if she weed on the floor i didn't make a fuss, i'd just say thats what you should do in the potty and eventually she got bored of the cleaning up each time and would sit on the potty instead!

I am only letting him run round nappyless at home. Because as you say Chubbleigh I don't mind cleaning wee and poo up off the floor but the car seat and pushchair are a different matter. I have a cover on the sofa so thats not so much of a problem. I let him run round most of this afternoon with nothing on his bottom he wee'd twice on the floor but I think recognition is starting to kick in because when we asked him to try and do a wee on the potty before his bath he squatted on the floor and did one where he was stood! Luckily it was on lino. I don't think I will try toilet training him properly. I'll let him take the lead, but I discovered today that cleaning up accidents is definately easier than trying to make him wear a nappy. Thank you for all your comments.

i dont think you can
ds is 2.9 and dont like pants, and no bribes..tried for ages, let him run around naked indoors but holds it in i think..have had potty around for ages etc..
after much stressing, screaming, patience,and the rest... i think it will probably happen overnight, when he is ready and have loads of other stuff to stress over so am leaving it for while...

my pals dd wont do it either at 3; has cotton nappies so feels wet; sister to copy; everything..

they will do it when they are ready..i HOPE!!

I think 19 months is pretty early for potty training, not impossible but not easy either. Sometime between 2 and 3 years is more average, and sometimes later.

Unless your child knows and understands what is happening, and can prempt when he/she needs to go, and can pulls his.her clothes up and down then you are not going to succeed in potty training. You may, however, train yourself to recognise the signs and take him;her to the toiler each time. Chances are this process will then go on for some months until he/she gets the hang of it.

If you wait for the signs and your child is ready there is no need for this long drawn out process. The child can and often will take the lead and the potty training will then take a couple of days or so, maybe a week.

DD was 24 months when she decided to take the lead. She was dry within 3 days. Much easier IMO.