Its not easy be a parent sometimes, but someone gave me a lovely picture with these 'memos' on, i thought id share.....
"Dear mum and dad, Please help me to love myself. Dont spoil me, i know quite well that i shouldnt have all that i ask for, i'm only testing you - but please give me the discipline i need!"
"I need my sense of dignity, so please dont belittle me in front of people."
"I'll take more notice if you talk to me with as much respect as you give to your grown-up friends."
"Dont ever think that it is beneath your dignity to apologize to me - an honest apology makes me feel surprisingly warm towards you."
"Please keep reminding me that i am basically good and capable and worthwhile, so i can grow up loving and accepting myself."
"Dont bribe me or make rash promises, remember that i feel badly let down when promises are broken. Dont be inconsistent".
"That confuses me and makes me loose faith in you!" "Dont tell me my fears are silly, they are terribly real and you can do much to reassure me if you try to understand".
"Dont be too upset when sometimes i say "i hate you" it isnt you i hate but your power over me".
"Dont forget that i cant thrive without alot of love and understanding.... but i dont need to tell you that do i?"
"Please dont shout or nag If you do i shall have to protect myself by appearing to be deaf".
"The more you give me the safety to expose my true feelings, the more of my inner beauty i will risk showing"
"Please praise and acknowledge me for who i am and not for the things i do, for then i will grow up without the stress of comparing and competing. P.S. - i love you, and i dont expect you to be perfect either!!