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Lazy or just not ready?

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Lovemykids · 13/01/2007 18:47

I began potty training my dd (nearly 3) a month or so ago and she did really well but for some reason went backwards.

I thought I was there as she would go on the potty/toilet and keep dry but then she just wet/poo'd herself and flatly refused to even sit on the potty! So I gave up thinking she wasn't ready.

I'm trying again but she's still refusing to sit on the potty. She looks at me and says NO! If she runs round with no pants/clothes on occasionally she will sit on it, with the odd accident on the floor - So she is aware when she needs to go! - but with clothes/pants on she just wets/poos herself!

I just don't know what to do? Any ideas?

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barbapapa · 13/01/2007 20:22

Don't have any advice but am bumping this for you - you could be writing about my 3 year old , she is exactly the same and it is driving me a little bit potty....

MrsOhHu · 14/01/2007 12:50

I have a 2 1/2 year old who sounds similar. I think she knows when she needs to go to the loo but refuses to sit on a potty or the loo and demands a nappy. It's really annoying and it's hard not to be annoyed by the endless mistakes, and pleased with the very occassional victory. I am fed up with it and don't really know what to do. I don't really want wee and poo all over the floors and furniture until she decides to use the loo!

NappiesGalore · 14/01/2007 13:12

my ds's 1 and 2 do this... they are 3.7 and 2.6 and both will happily run around naked from the waist down at home and take themselves off to the potty, or even sometimes the loo for ds1, and both will usually do mostly wee's, sometimes poo's, get up, take the potty and empty into the loo, flush and wash their hands, often without saying a thing... so great! sounds like they are trained... except neither will wera pants and if they do, ds2 just pees right through them and ds1... well mostly he just refuses to wear them.

i have had idontlikecrusts to visit yesterday tho, to help/advise me on a number of issues, this being one of them, and have had a suggestion of leaving them naked (as they prefer) at home...but then going somewhere nice every afternoon for an hour or two and just making it a requirement that they wear pants out of the house... reckons in my ds1's case in particular (who also needs to be 'dry' for a new nursery/preschool just started) will take only a week or so... (on arrival home she suggests silently removing the pants and trousers and just letting them be comfy at home, silent as in not saying anything negative about pants, just letting them relax when at home IYSWIM)

dont know if that feels relevent to anyone, but it was an idea i hadnt thought of so thought it might be of help...

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Edam · 14/01/2007 13:39

Can you take them shopping and allow them to choose a potty? Ds wouldn't use the first one I got but was very happy with a 'chair' style one he chose in mothercare.

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Lovemykids · 14/01/2007 14:11

I tried that with her - leave her without pants/clothes at home and put clothes/pants on when we went out anywhere but I got fed up with carrying extra clothes and having to plan where I go so as to be very close to changing facilities etc!

One trip to the garden centre resulted in me looking down at her 'splashing' in the pool of wee in the bottom of her pushchair!!!!! I had asked her several times if she wanted to go to the toilet and she said no! If i sat her on the toilet every so often and ask her to go she would tell me 'no wee wee' etc.

I'm going to have to get her trained because I will be returning to work soon and things are getting pretty desperate!

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NappiesGalore · 14/01/2007 14:15

oh lovemykids - its so f'ing draining isnt it?

MKS · 17/01/2007 13:05

Just a wee note that you are not alone. My DD1 used to grizzle as soon as she was damp as a newborn, and had the knack of wetting the changing mat the split second we changed her nappy. We've been hanging her over a potty and catching wees since she was a week old on the basis it was as good in a potty as on the changing mat and the floor. We started potty training when she was 21 months old with agreement of her nursery who also agreed she was ready. She is now 30 months old and we've essentially given up. 6 months of poo in her bright bots trainer pants (recommended as they look like real pants) and 2 - 3 wet accidents a day my washing machine died so we gave up and used pull ups. I'm now sometimes using motherease nappies again as well, with lots of boosters to make it really bulky and uncomfortable. She doesn't care! She prefers to hide behind the curtains to do her poos, despite lots of bribes (TV if the poo is in the right place, stickers, smarties (and I'm a dentist so you can tell I'm desperate) and a pink hand me down bicycle she keeps asking for but not getting.) Sometimes she decides that she wants to go, and can do it all herself, but mostly she just can't be bothered if she is absorbed in playing with something. It is just good to know I am not the only one dealing with this.

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