Hi all, forgive me for my lack of use of the lingo, I'm new to this. I just want to present a situation and hear from anyone who has been In this situation and what the process and outcomes were. Here goes.
My partner and his ex wife have two kids, 5 and 3. They split up 2.5 years ago and we have been together for 2 years (I wasn't the reason for the break up, she had another man). Although the seperation wasn't nice and they cannot get on, the kids have spent equal time with each parent. Arrangement is a week with mum, dad has 1 contact night for tea and then a week with dad, mum has 1 contact night for tea.
Both parents have parental responsibility and nothing has been written down legally via the courts since their divorce as to who has the kids and when. This is because it has worked and we've had relatively few issues.
Last week, there was a disagreement between mum & dad and she decided he can't have his kids anymore so went to nursery (on our week) and collected them before we got there. He went to her house to have them back but she refused to hand them over and rather than stand there and argue, he walked away and has attempted to get the ball rolling with solicitors and mediators etc. Needless to say, the situation is devastating because on one hand, we want to do the same to her and fight for the kids but on the other, we don't want them to be privy to this whole situation as they should t be the rope in a big tug of war.
I'd just like to hear from anyone who has had any similar experiences. Thanks in advance.