bailing kids out

[ilovesprouts]

I got an interim payment last month,gave the two eldest £500 each since then dd1 has had another £700 pounds the last being £100 today was crying down the Fone saying she had no gas /electric or petrol so her fella can get to work,but when I said you had already had enuff she told me your my mother you are supposed to help medieval told her I can't keep dishing money out all the time to her,her boyfriend wanted £500 yesterday as they are in rent and council tax arrears,fair enuff I get PIP/ and cares allowance really dreading wen I get my big pay out I really am

[bbpp]

With the youngest being 3 they'll be able to get 15 hours free childcare, right? So she could work 14 hours or so with no childcare costs for an extra £375 a month, or more. You're doing the right thing to no longer give her money.

[uhoh2016]

bbpp that's a good idea in theory but there's seldom few jobs out there that would co inside with the 15 hrs free nursery the youngest would get.
If OP is capable she could offer some babysitting of the youngest so her daughter could get a little job, maybe his parents may also be willing to help out with childcare if they know it's likely to result in not being asked for more money.

OP - could you sit down with your dd and go through her outgoings to see where they can cut back eg smaller rent house, smaller car - less insurance tax petrol etc or even get rid of the car completely if viable.
Get her to CAB to make sure she's getting all the help she's entitled too

[ilovesprouts]

I can't really look after the grandkids much in the holidays,as I've a son with special needs and I've had a spinal injuries so can only walk slowly now.and my hands are full with my son. I've told her to cut down on stuff but she does not listen tryed helping her but just gets chucked in my face Last time I had a big row he told my daughter to not let me see the kids but told her today she has to stand on her own too feet she's 23 now but funny Enough she goes to her dads twice a week and he won't help her even if he has money.