so lonely

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do any other mums married/living with partner ever get lonely? I have had this ache inside me for a while now and I think I am desperately lonely. DH works full time, then goes to mates houses to play xbox. I know I have the children, but it seems that my whole life consists of refereeing arguments, endless washing and ironing, cooking, washing dishes and cleaning up after everyone. I recently started as a dinner nanny at my sons school and have met loads of people there, but with the xmas holidays I've seen noone. I am on medication for pnd (been on it for 4ish years) and dont know if this is an undercurrent of what is wrong, but I just feel so unloved and unlovable, you know how it is, fair, fat and nearly forty. Could it be a mid life crisis? So sorry for boring you all with this, but there is noone else to tell.

I'd be depressed and lonely if I was left at home with the children all the time. Does your DH go out every night? Could you get him to stay in with you more maybe for a nice supper together or perhaps babysit so you could go out with some friends?

Yes and my DH is home most nights if he's not working away.

I'm the same VGS. Its as though noone 'sees' me anymore, Im just part of the fixtures and fittings. I dont really enjoy 'going out' as such and H really hates me going anywhere. Recently became a parent governor at sons school too, and my first meeting was 3hrs long. H went crackers when I got back and demanded I give up the governing thing. I said I'd sooner give him up!

Indeed! When DH was off over the holidays there and DD was having one of her stubborn turns he turned to me in frustration and said "you need to do something"

Erm they are your kids too - welcome to my world honey!