lack of confidence as a parent

[asleep]

I need some advice and tips on how to boost my confidence as a parent. I find myself worrying so much about my children that it clouds my view and I get anxious. They (DD 5y & DS 7m) are both doing so well, but I can't see it most of the time.

In Toddler Taming it says to go to McDonalds... the other monsters running around always make parents very proud of their own little angels Give yourself a break - if they're doing well then so are you x

I am sure you are doing a fantastic job. The fact that you are on here proves that you take motherhood seriously. Jsut don't take it too seriously. I fret about every little thing and sometimes lack confidence (I have dd 9 next week and ds 17 weeks). Some days I feel great others not so great but my lo's are happy, well cared for and much loved. good luck and be happy

I worry all the time, I have 11yo DS and DD DS twins 30yo, I get so knotted up when I'm by myself! to the point of depression and confidence!

I will watch this post for the advice given to you asleep!

sleepy - did you mean to say 30 yer old twins or three year old?!

I think most of us feel like this sometimes. I look at my boys sometimes and it dawns on me what a massive, crazy responsiblity it is, and I can't understand how anyone dares to take it on, never mind imperfect clumsy me. The greater our love for them, the greater the scale of terror that it might all go wrong.

My only advice is to try and take care of yourself, too - nice warm bath, soothing tea, as much sleep as you can get - and keep posting on MN, because it will keep you sane during these inevitable crises of confidence!

(am greensleeves btw)

3yo if they were 30yo they could look after me!

if you were the only one feeling like this there would be no need for Mumsnet!

Come on here when you can't see the wood for the trees, and look after yourself, don't ALWAYS put them first.. took me 14 years to work that one out.

Sometimes I get it just right with my 3 but so much of it I'm worried, irritated, guilt-ridden, confused, panic-stricken..... and then the Mumsnet jury usually makes me see more clearly.

ditto your sentiments! let's raise a new years toast to mumsnet!!!

mumsnet is fab! getting out and about with my kids (baby groups) etc also helps me in rl whenever i have anxious/panic moments. you're doing a great job

thanks all. today i was diagnosed with PND. i think that might also contribute to not feeling very confident. i do agree, mumsnet is brilliant

asleep - well done in getting yourself to the docs. A brave move. Now you have a diagnosis of PND you can get yourself together knowing that there is light at the end of the tunnel. I hope you are getting plenty of support - emotional and hands-on .