anyone had a baby at the age of 49+?

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i have just found out i am pregnant at the age of 49!! oh btw i should mention this is not nappyaddict, it is her mum before you all get confused.

is anyone else out there my age. i feel shocked to say the least. maybe dgs came along to prepare me for my own lo!! (my dd is here now making sure i use all the appropiate abbreviations lol!)

and what about the one the gp uses?

i know someone who got pregnant at 52 and had a healthy baby, she is trying for another one now and she is 54, good luck & best wishes to you

I think First Response is 12.5 mIU/ml. Not sure about GP's ones. Presumably they'll do a blood test to be sure?

thanks i'll ask her which she used. yeah they mentioned a blood test but with it being xmas and all she hasn't had it done yet.

We'll keep watching...
Is she hoping it'll be negative?

I just had ds2 at 41 and elibean had her dd2 at 46. Good luck!

my mum's friend had a lovely boy (now a lovely man) at the age of 48. good luck.

yikes. wrong name again... sorry nappies' mum. you'll get quite the wrong impression of this place.

she has mixed feelings. she would love a baby. she thinks ds is her own baby most of the time (that's another story that i won't go into atm) however she is scared of m/cing and also that people will think she is too odd. we watched that against all odds programme and the reaction from a lot of the public was that it was wrong ot have a baby at an old age/ wasn't fair on the child etc.

i suppose, to be brutally honest, it's in the lap of the gods now. a loving mum is a loving mum, bollocks to the age thing. you sound like you've been well-brung up , so your little brother or sister could do worse than have her as a mum. plus your DS would have an uncle or aunt younger than him... i love all that stuff...

No way is it wrong. It's natural and women of 50 are quite fit these days. Even if you go off and read the Bible there are bits about older women having children.

If I find someone who wants a child I wouldn't rule out having one at 58 by intervention if necessary and abroad if it's illegal here. Older mothers are often better, more stable, experienced. But I never announced a pregnancy until month 4 to anyone even family !!! - that may be rare but I think it's tempting fate even to talk about it.

I agree - how can it be 'wrong'? This baby was conceived naturally and it sounds as though your mum would know that if anything happened to you then you or others in the family would support the child.

Xenia - presumably the same would apply to you? If you had a baby at 58 then your eldest dd would be 35 I think? So the child would have an extended family to support it.

I think some people have funny ideas about assisted conception. I wouldn't have gone for it myself but I don't see why anyone who wants a child up till around age 55 shouldn't go for it if they're fit and healthy. And if there's a ready made extended family available to support the rewsulting child then there should be no age limit.

I had my last boy who is 9 when I was 44. There was a 12 and 17 year gap between my others. Total shock I had just started a new job and had all the tests. I worked until 2 days before he was due, blood pressure stayed static the whole time and apart from putting on mega weight I blossomed. I have to say though that I do get jealous of friends of mine who do not come home from work and have to play football or join in a game of playstation and can go on quiet holidays rather than always checking who has got a kids club. Without a doubt it takes longer to get back to form when you are older. I got blood pressure after he was born, have still not lost all the weight and think I gave up a lot of my body reserves to him as I am certainly creeky now. Much as I love him I do crave a bit more me time. Best of luck with the baby. As a consultant said to me, dont bother taking it easy, if the baby is meant to be it will thrive even if you are doing extreme sports if not you could lose it just reading a book. Best wishes x

My grandmother had her 6th and last at 47. Spontaneous pregnancy. She thought she was having the menopause.

She gave birth to a healthy baby boy at home after a 45 minute labour.

He's in his 50s now and a physician and father himself.

She was VERY shocked, needless to say.

see i think up to about 55 is okay too. what is the cut off age in this country for ivf? about us supporting the child we would but it would be difficult. this child is by a man my mother has had an affair with. the family relationship at the moment is very strained to say the least. i would never spite a child because of this but at the moment i am feeling like it will be hard to bond with this baby as my brother or sister and my mum knows this.

Ooer... is your Dad still on the scene? I can understand that the child being the result of a casual affair would make things difficult whether he is or not - but you'd all love it when it arrived, I'm sure.
Don't know what the age limit is for IVF - maybe it depends on circumstances? eg if you'd had a healthy baby before you'd be a better candidate, presumably?

no she is still with the b*stard. have posted about it before so won't go into it now. my dad is still living with us cos he doesn't want mums new bloke to get his hands on the house. can't trust him as far as you can throw him. he's been on the scene a couple of times before. everytime he has convinced my mum he has changed, everytime he hasn't. duno why i should believe this time is different. the reason he finished with my mum before was cos he didn't want a young family. i was 8 at the time. i don't believe this has changed and i think he is using it as a way to keep my mum so to speak. i know for a fact he has refused to use condoms, even though my mum told him endless times she got pregnant 6 times on the pill. of course i could have it horribly wrong but what can i do.

How horrible for you. That does shed a bit of a different light on your feelings about the pregnancy. You must be quite young yourself - your parents are lucky to be getting such a lot of support from you.

But do you think it's right to try for a child at an older age, thinking that your extended family will be there for the child if anything happens to you? Seems a little unfair on the extended family if they are not consulted and have no say in the decision.

Of course something might happen to any of us and our families might have to step in to deal with the children, but the chances of serious illness or death are greater as you get older.

And before anyone jumps on me, I had DS3 at 41, but I certainly didn't try for a child thinking it was Ok because my family would be there if necessary.

i am 18. mum is selling the house and she is engaged to this man. for years she has thought about selling the house but always changed her mind about it mainly cos it has a lot of memories from when my brother was alive i think. it just seems odd now he comes along she is willing to sell. similarly that my dad has asked her to marry him loads she always said no that it was a waste of money and just a piece of paper. guess what - now her and this man are engaged. he is very controlling and puts a lot of pressure on her. she blames me for stressing her out when we all know it is him.

if she does sell i don't like the thought of my dad living by himself all alone so i think me and ds will move back in with him. he's older than my mum and not in good health at all. i think i would worry too much if he lived by himself!

me and mum have never had a great relationship so this is just another thing to add to a long list really.

That's a lot of pressure for someone who is still a teenager! Bear in mind that if your Dad becomes frail he'll get a lot less help if you've moved in with him - you will be his 'carer'. You might be better off living close but not under the same roof.

sympathies... you have a lot on your plate there...

maybe but i just don't like the thought of him being lonely and on his own. hmmm this thread seems to have gone off the point a bit. mind you it is a good job my mum can only get on this site with my help

Sounds like it! Hopefully even tho it's gone away from the original point it's given you a chance to get things off your chest a bit. Presume no news re: her pregnancy?

Just noticed what time you were on! 4 in the morning??!!