Ok, so im the mother of a moody 9 year old...

[charliecat]

Who is stomping round the house, crying into her pillow and being rude and insulting to anyone who trys to speak nicely to her.
And so when I tell dd2 not to bother speaking to her because she will only insult her shes going off her nut saying she hates everyone.
Ive just said clearly its yourself you hate, your the one whos miserable, your just trying to make us as miserable as you...
which I know ISNT the right thing to say.
So what is, when you only get insults and rudeness back when shes in this sort of mood?
Could be giggling in 5 mins BTW, its not constant.

I still find at this age, stroppy behaviour can sometimes be due to low sugar levels or tiredness. Not saying that that's always the answer but, in our household more often than not, it is.

Yes, too many late nights have made her a gremlin, defintely, but she really is TRYING to make everyone else miserable
Shes sitting on her bed throwing nasty remarks over to dd2, whos 6, and its very unpleasant.
Ive told dd2 to stick her fingers in her ears and poke her tongue out!

Ah yes........ the age that one has left and another is due to enter. Sigh.........

Moody, stroppy and generally unpleasant.

So what to do? Hmmmmmmm..... well aside from enrolling her in military school (tried that... didn't want her there either) all you can do is what you would do with a 2yo. Ignore the moods as best you can. When she's deliberately horrible to her sister send her to her room. It doesn't matter if she stomps there as long as she goes there. Lots of early bedtimes and plenty to eat, but above all no pandering to the strops and lots of praise when she's gorgeous again.

Then........ remember my time old phrase..

This too will pass!

DD1 is now a gorgeous 12yo and DD2 is fast moving into stroppy 9yo (8 atm... but doing her best to be a stroppy 9yo).

Sympathies, charliecat. One of my children is the same age and has the ability to cause meltdown in our house. I know he is currently overstimulated, overtired and has overindulged in festive food.

I have one too CC (a male of the species)
I keep telling myself it's good practice for (gulp) puberty!

My DS1 (now 14) was a bit like that at 9 but is now the most gorgeous, helpful, lovely teen you could meet. [proud emoticon]

So, 2 down, 3 to go!

She is currently facing the wrong way to watch the TV...so dd2 is enjoying a video and shes facing the wall
Arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrggggggggggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhh but LOL!

Noses and faces lol!

CC... here's a glass of wine for you babe!

Mars - thank you for your wisdom! My dd is 9 is 2 weeks and has been turning from the most gorgeous, sweet natured girl into a moody, stroppy nightmare. I thought I was doing something wrong, but maybe this is a natual phase after all! I just was expecting it more at 13.......
Sympathies Charliecat....you are not the only one!

When I say Ok im going to ignore you till you can speak nicely or tell dd2 to ignore her nastyness she sobs her heart out....this is tough...but what does she expect???!!!!

So let her sob! Won't kill her!

Don't worry CC.... this too will pass!

Here... have more wine!

Oh what a timely thread!
Dd has always been a complete joy and so easy going.
But she's recently discovered strops, moods, answering back
Ho hum, not all the time, just alternated with ds's 3 year old grumps.

But you lot with teenagers have given me hope that she may be a delightful teen.

Will have another wine, thanks Mars

hmmm, I thought my 9 year old was just starting early teenage behavoir. seems like I am not alone. The mood swings are tought. crying fits and stomping off. Her brother who is 8 just looks at her like she is an alien who cries alot.