am I doing something wrong or is this just cos i'm a mummy - please advise!lol.

[Munz]

picture the scene,

I go out J screams for the first 10 mins and then will play happily for the next hour i'm out, I come in and he screams blue murder - what's that all about??

I have a cup of tea and I have him walking around the chair to me to grab at the cup/slice of cake or what ever I have in my hand - q me to move everything continuously out of his way.

I leave him with DH he plays nicely, DH has coffee he's not bothered - why isn't he like this with DH why??? do I mother him too much?? can you mother a baby too much (course u cna't i'm being stupid but FFS - will I ever have a nice brew again in peace??) lol.

so anyhow why's he like it with me and not DH? and why does he cry when I come back and around my ankles etc as soon as I walk in the door? he's more clingy/cuddaly wiht me - which I do cuddles/pick up etc loads- but u're suppost to arn't u! lol.

goin out on fri (alone! lol - well with mum) for the afternoon so am looking forward to a relaxing 'adult' lunch

Sounds exactly like ds2 (although he also hassles dh when he's around). I sometimes leave him with the Sure Start creche over the road and he's fine, doesn't cry much when I leave, but bawls ewhen he sees me again. It's like he's just realised (after 2 hours) that I've left him alone and he wants to give me a hard time about it. I was putting together a trike he got for Xmas this morning and I ended up having to put him in his playpen as he was utterly determined to get hold of the power drill I was using. Sigh. He's only 16 months and I know the phase will pass, but it is draining, so sympathy to you, munz.

its just cos you're his mummy.

Mine was like this for a while, but since dp has been home for the holidays he's now a 'daddy's boy'. I'm quite enjoying the rest

he cries when you come back because he missed you - or rather, because he realised that you went away and wants you to know that he knows and he'd prefer you to be right there with him. which is fair enough because he's a baby and your his mum and he's programmed to think like that. don't worry about it and enjoy your time apart!

god wilbar please don't say I have it have this for longer! lol J's only 10 months! lol.

(althou he was ahem 'helping' DH so v well putting his little trike together my nan got him for xmas!) lol.

I wouldn't mind so much but it's literally when he sees me he crys after i've been out! lol.

thought it's cos I was the mummy! lol. althou would be nice for him to be the same with DH so DH knows what it's like! lol.

I guess he misses his 'play mate' lol.

I think they're all different in how long the phase lasts munz! Ds1 did it a bit just after turning one and then abruptly stopped and headed in the opposite direction, got into everything, didn't want to sit with me, was on his feet 24/7. He did this until he was about 20 months and it was knackering! Not sure which is worse to handle, their constant presence or that nagging worry that they are sticking their fingers into sockets when they are out of your sight for a nanosecond. LOL

lol wilbur - well when i'm there he's like that - constantly moving/into things etc so when I do want 5 mins with a brew and a cake he's wanting that! lol. then we have it the other way when I leave him and come back in! lol - I thought it was something I was doing wrong! lol. good to know it's not just him! lol. he's such a mummy's boy thou lol.

My ds is the same at 10.5mo. I read somewhere that separation anxiety peaks around 2 years of age and am wondering how I'm going to get through the next 14 mo!!

lol. you and me both M&b! lol.