when do I accept that I've been given one that just doesn't sleep?

[Ilovenannyplum]

DS is 18 months, my god he's cute but he's yet to sleep through the night.

When do you just accept that this is your life now and you're never going to sleep a whole night again?

Goes off to google coffee iv's.....

I was really smug with dd. She slept 11 hours from 12 weeks and 12 hours from 1 year and age 3 sleeps 13 hours. I never rubbed it anyone's face but I did wander what these people were doing wrong being up half the night.
Then DS was born. He woke up 8 times a night every night till 6mo and now at 7mo is starting to make a little progress. I am in the acceptance stage which is making it easier.
Poor you op hang on in there I don't know many people with 3 plus year olds who don't sleep even if they were crappy babies

I've yet to accept it and always hoping one day it will just click. DD is 20mo. She first slept through at 16mo, and now manages it around 3 nights a week but to even it out has decided she wants to start her day an hour earlier than previously. She was at her worst at 12mo when she would wake every hour, and sometimes even more frequently.
I've had little landmark victories: 9mo ish her naps magically improved from never longer than 20mins to 40mins (not sure why), we sleep trained at a year which meant no more 45mins of patting to sleep and slightly fewer night waking (maybe by one), and at 16mo converted her cot bed into a toddler bed. The last one was the biggest winner. It wasn't done to improve her sleep, that was just a very welcome by-product. I think she didn't like being confined to the sleeping bag and she likes being able to crawl out from under her duvet if she's a bit hot.
I'm pregnant with DC2 now and just hoping we've served our time with a non-sleeper. I want to be one of those smug parents this time.

shite my ds has been 'sleeping' on a mattress on the floor since he was 10 months, he does sleep slightly better than he did in the cot. Anything is worth a go! Good luck 😊

I've sort of accepted it. From 8-14 weeks DS slept through the night then went through a regression that's still going on at 5months. He has a bath at 7pm and is asleep on me by 7:30 but then cluster-feeds (while asleep) until 8:30. I sneak him into his cot around 9pm. He wakes at 1am, 4am and 5:30am, then is up for day by 6.30!

I cope by drinking a lot of coffee. I have a chair at end of bed with my phone and kindle, water, eye drops, glasses, chocolate etc so I can stay awake during feeds and go on MN. I try to stay positive. During the day I get out for lots of fresh air and activities. He naps 2x day for approx 45mins but only on me!

I'm planning to try CC when he turns 6months and I've heard solids can help. My main issue is he can't self-soothe so I have to feed him/cuddle him back to sleep every time he wakes. My friends baby was same and CC worked after 1night!

When DS was 10 months old I refused to accept it and rang a Sleep Consultant She worked wonders and for 9 months everything was perfect.

When he hit 20ish months he had some kind of regression. He's almost two now and sleeps 8pm-6am maybe 3/4 nights a week and on the other nights he can be up at about 3am and then awake again for the day at 5am.

It's all peaks and troughs and I think being permanently tired is part of parenting.

I have now perfected the art of sleeping when DS naps

We had
ds1 - brilliant text book baby, good sleeper, spot on age/development.
ds2 - harder work, good sleeper, but not as good as ds1, more advanced development/ age and didn't nap at all.

dd - development delays, no nap, has rarely if never slept through the night, she is 12 and manages it ok.

They are all different and no normal really, just normal for them.
It will get better OP, even if it's just being older and able to manage themselves.