Pocket money for 12/13 year old

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Hi there

I wondered what you all give your 12/13 year olds as pocket money and what they are expected to buy from it.

My dd1 gets a total of £30 per month (15 from me and 15 from her dad) and she is expected to buy all clothes and shoes apart from school stuff and underwear and any other bits and pieces such as make up.
If she goes on a shopping trip with friends she may get extra also.

She is complaining she has no clothes that fit her and that her pocket money is not enough.

Thoughts? Thanks

£5 a week for 12 year old dd and I buy her clothes

£5 a month for my 13yr old - we buy all their uniform and shoes, and out-of-school wear as and when it's needed. We also top up their PAYG, less than a fiver per month.

DC is not yet "into" shopping or going into town much, if they do then we might give them 5 or 10 pounds to sub a cinema trip or lunch in town with friends (pret or McDonald's type, nothing fancy).

They save up birthday or Christmas money to buy books or special things requisite teenage hollister hoodie that I don't want to pay for.

12 yr old gets £5 a week plus mobile contract paid, I buy his clothes and shoes. He hasn't really gone shopping with friends, but on the odd occasion he does do things he gets a little more.

I can't imagine £30 a month would get any decent shoes. Maybe buy her shoes for her So she can buy her clothes.

My eldest gets that much but it's for fun spending, they are not expected to buy their own clothes as that's for us as parents to do. Toiletries are simply added to the weekly shop when needed. A phone is essential for high school so we pay for that too.

My 12 year old typically gets £28 a month (but she has to earn it). From this she is expected to pay for anything she wants to buy, going out with her friends and to save for presents (Birthday and Christmas) for people (friends and family).

However, on top of that I pay for her phone contract, clothes and toiletries.

At the moment, most of her money seems to be spent on replacing items she has lost .

My 11 year old gets the equivalent of £20 per month for her to spend as she wishes. She also gets a new book to read every month, as does her younger sister (we go to the store after school and they pick one each). My grandfather did this for me as I was growing up and I loved looking forward to my new book.

When I was this age I got £100 / month. But I had to buy dinner out of that, £3 ish a day for 20 school days = £60. Didn't do school dinners we were let out into the village. And bus fair which was about £15.

So not including that, around £35 a month. My phone and basic toiletries were paid for but if I wanted special products or clothes I had to get that myself. I very rarely could though, I only had maybe 4 outfits I could put together that looked...okay, fit and quality wise. £35 goes quick if you go out for cinema and lunch one week, then ice skating the next, and I think there's a lot of pressure to keep up with what your friends are doing at that age. You can get pushed out of groups very quickly if you're not doing what they're doing.

£30 isn't enough to get a good wardrobe. After she's paid for a day out her money will be almost gone. Even a bottle of water every day will mean she's left with nothing. I can remember getting primark pumps and by the next month they were falling apart because I was wearing them nearly every day after school/on the weekends, but I couldn't afford anything better quality. I think £30 is enough for spending money, but you'll probably still have to pay for her basic clothes, and definitely for a couple pairs of good shoes.

My dd 15 gets £15 a week. She helps a lot at home and is doing well at school. That's for fun stuff, transport (Inc to School if weather bad we're in Scotland so its pretty crap till about Easter!), drinks at school (she gets FSM but its not enough to cover a hot meal and a drink), she contributes to her shoes (not cheap as she needs to wear good quality shoes and this way she appreciates they need looking after), special clothes (non necessity) and beauty/make up beyond basics.

But I do think parents should pay for needed clothes, shoes, skincare, toiletries (Inc sanpro).

I pay her phone contract but it was her main birthday present.